Wedding Rehearsal Dinner
I have a problem our buget for the rehearsal dinner is about 500 bucks. My fiance and myself have paid for the whole wedding ourselves. At this point we don`t have a big amount to spend on a rehearsal dinner as you can see. I`m woundering if it is rude to invite only the wedding party and parents of the bride and groom? I don`t want to offend anyone but having to pay for dates is just not in our budget plus the children of the wedding party spouses etc. We thought we could let everyone know that only the wedding party will be paid for. If anyone else attends they are expected to pay the bill. Everyone knows that we have paid for the wedding on our own so I really don`t think anyone will be offended. Or is it rude to pay for spouses and not dates and have an adult dinner where only the 3 chlidren in the wedding attend the dinner? Please help someone!!!
Posted by Sylena; updated 03/30/07
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You should NOT feel guilty. Rehersal dinners are not meant for you to pay for everyone who feels like coming. I would say it is ok for extras to come to dinner, but they are responsible for their own bill. I am paying for my wedding myself too and i know how expensive it is!!!! Rehersal dinners are usually for the people in the wedding, after you practice the run for the big day. It should be relaxing for you and your future husband, not a stress fest. Just make sure you tell everyone the "rules" of dinner, and also pass on the responsibility to mom or another trusted person, who can use your check and pay so if anyone gets the idea of you paying for an unauthorized meal, they can take care of it so then you dont have to deal with it. Its your time to relax before your wedding, so dont let anyone ruin it for you. GOOD LUCK!
Posted by Nicole & Jeff; updated 03/30/07
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I am also paying for my own wedding and for my rehearsal dinner I decided to go to a buffet that way I dont have to worry about what people want to eat vs what I can afford for them to eat. My friend did it and she spent 200 dollars for 35 to 40 people.
Posted by Christina; updated 03/31/07
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The last wedding I photographed, they had their rehearsal dinner at their house and had a huge BBQ and party. Nothing wrong with doing that. :)
If you don`t have a house to throw the dinner at, ask one of your friends or family.
Trust me, your friends and family would be sad to know that you are stressing over this.
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Posted by Dawn; updated 04/02/07
