Guests To Wedding But Not Reception

No! It`s extremely rude to do that. It says "you are important enough to watch my ceremony and bring a present, but I don`t care about you enough to let you celebrate with us. Go home while the people that really matter join us for our celebration".

Rude, tacky and insulting!!!!!

I do not think that it is rude at all. Some people`s feelings may get hurt; but you know how many people you can accomodate at your reception so I would say stick to the number you all have agreed on. I would much rather not invite someone than invite them and not have enough food, favors, etc. This is your day; do it the way you want to and don`t worry about what anyone else thinks.

Danalee, I have recently read several of your replies to messages and you seem to be putting a lot of people down; maybe you need to step back and take a look at yourself for a minute. I`ve always been told that those who put others down usually aren`t happy with themselves. I mean come on who died and made you "Etiqutte Queen"?

Thanks Shannon for your reply and I agree that Danalee`s response was "rude, tacky and insulting!"
Thanks Shannon.

I wasn`t putting you down. I was putting down the idea. I was only answering the question that you posed. You asked if it was appropriate and in fact it is not at all. The correct answer is that what you are proposing to do is unacceptable. I`m sorry if that`s not what you wanted to hear. Apparently you aren`t really interested in the right thing to do - You only wanted someone to give you the green light. If that`s all you needed, then you got it from Donna. Unfortunately no matter how much anyone would like for Donna to be correct, she is incorrect. And no matter how much you dislike me, it doesn`t change the answer to your question. Sorry ladies, but it is a huge faux pas.

Actually, after looking up many posts on the same subject ... It is rude to invite people to the ceremony and not the reception. For the reason mention above, it sends the message that the guests were not "good enough" to attend the reception, even though that was not the case.

I have heard of private ceremonies with large receptions and of post wedding parties where the video is played, but not of wedding guests not invited to the reception. You are very sweet to think of your friends at work, but I am sure they understand about there just not being room. Have them over when the honeymoon`s over and show them the pictures.

Good luck.

I have to agree with Danalee - and I think it`s quite funny that you would think SHE is rude yet you would invite people to the ceremony and not the reception. Something is wrong with this picture.

I don`t think Danalee was rude either. You asked a question and she answered it. Her answer was correct and there was nothing rude about how she stated it.

Sorry,
But I am with the majority on this. You do not invite people to the Ceremony and not to the reception. Of course like with everything else there are exceptions. Maybe a teacher, or Minister or anyone who serves the public gets married and there are many people who want to share in the Joy of the day. In this case I`ve seen a light reception given in the church hall, finger foods and punch kind of thing. So the actual invitation is sent to all and at the bottom it says "Light Reception following" and everyone gets that and then your actual family members and close friends are also sent a recetion card with a response card. But if these are just a few random work friends absolutely NOT. It would be RUDE...... If the work people really want to come to the ceremony they will without an invite. I have done this, your close to people at work but not outside of work...so they understand, and through all your talking about your plans they will know time, place etc.And if they truly want to go to the Church they will come, and no hard feeling.

I am sorry, but I am having a hard time with this. I have some people at work and people that we have simply met that are excited that we are getting married and want to attend. I don`t want to have to change my reception plans--food, banquet hall, etc--to have snacks and crap just because people want to come. It`s not fair to us! I want to get married and have "everybody and their momma" come but I shouldn`t have to pay for strangers. This includes uninvited dates, children, parents, friends, etc.

Hello,
You can invite them to the wedding and the dance after the dinner and that is perfectly okay. Some people like to come and dance and drink if they are co-workers or friends, but not close enough to pay for an expensive meal.
Thanks,
Jan

I was worred about being rude when I invited work friends only to my wedding. I work at an elementary school and am friendly with everyone, but close to a few. However, many of them said they wanted to come and see me get married. This prompted me to send a wedding invitation-minus the reception card---to those I am friendly with, but not terribly close. The point of the day is the wedding and the couple being MARRIED. It is not the party--I think people should be able to ivite whomever they want to any part of the festivities. People knew we were keeping the reception small and they understood. If they were bitter about it, then they would not have attended the ceremony--which many of them did attend. Some gave us a gift, and some did not. Couples who EXPECT a gift from all attendees have the wrong focus. There is also too much focus on the party aspect of a wedding, and not the MARRIAGE of the couple. I say people should do what works best for them and people will understand.