Etiquette Question
Me and my fiancee recently got engaged and she chose one of her favorite colors as the colors for the bridesmaid dresses. My sister is also engaged to be married and is getting married a few months before us. Shortly after we chose our colors for the bridesmaids she changed her colors to the same color after realizing that the color she wanted would be difficult to come by. My fiancee feels that it is inapropriate for us to both have the same colors used in both weddings and now we must change ours.
I would like to know if anyone has encountered a similar experience and if it would really be inapropriate for our weddings to have the same colors.
Posted by Bill; updated 02/28/03
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Are you serious Bill? I`m planning my wedding right now and stumbled upon your message. I can`t believe that would even be a issue. Relax, Both you and your bride to be shoul be enjoying your planning and the anticipaiting of this wonderful event. I`m sure that there is probaly hundreds of weddings on the night of yours. Guarantee others will be using the same color scheme. Trust me, Just go with the flow. Nobody really pays much attention anyway, Good Luck.
Posted by MeShell; updated 03/02/03
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I think this is a legitimate question. I am planning my wedding in October and my best friend is getting married in December and the bridesmaid colours do concern me. Especially in your situation where the two weddings are in the same family and a large number of the guests will be the same.
If your fiance picked the colour first and no dresses have actually been bought, could you chat to your sister and explain that your wedding colours have already been arranged. I`m sure she will understand the predicament of having exactly the same colour for both weddings. You said her wedding is first so it is your wedding that won`t look as original if you have the same colours.
Of course, it only matters if you let it matter, as I`m sure the bridesmaids will look lovely no matter what. But if your fiance has expressed concerns about it, you should address these as it will detract from her enjoyment of the day if she is worrying about it.
Posted by danielle; updated 03/02/03
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It is absolutely ridiculous to think you "own" those colors for your wedding just because you picked them first. It is such a Bridezilla thing to even think about! So what if another family member has those colors in their wedding? What`s the big deal? Your wedding will be different regardless of the colors. Plan your wedding with the colors that you like and forget about what someone else is doing. It`s petty and silly to argue over a silly thing like who chose the color first. Use the same colors!!!!!
Posted by Deena; updated 03/03/03
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I would just stick with the colours you originally chose. It`s your day so do what makes you both happy and people should respect that.
Posted by Sharon; updated 03/04/03
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Keep the same colors, that way you can reuse decorations and bridesmaid dresses!
Posted by Bunny; updated 03/05/03
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I would stick with your colors. No one will even remember that the colors are similar as long the weddings are unique. Don`t sweat the small stuff and you will have a much better experience.
Posted by krista; updated 03/07/03
