Can U Get Married @ 15 In Louisville Kentucky?

Oh sweetie. Please don`t feel guilted into marriage. I know you love your boyfriend, and love is SO intense when you`re a teenager, but getting married to prevent statutory rape charges is a really bad reason to make such a major life-changing commitment. Are you worried he`ll break up with you if you don`t do this? Do you think he`ll go to jail and it`ll be your fault? Think about it this way -- if you are in fact old enough to get married in Kentucky then you are legally considered of an age where you can make informed decisions as an adult and therefore by law couldn`t have been statutorily raped. Another way to look at it is: let`s say your parents did have to approve of the wedding in Kentucky. Okay. Get it in writing. Somehow pay $12 to have a letter by your parents saying they approve of your marrying your boyfriend signed and sealed by a Notary Public (which proves that they did in fact write the letter and you didn`t forge it or anything). Now, once you have this letter this proves that they approve of him - and what parents would approve of their child marrying a rapist, right? So then they can`t logically press charges against him. Well, they can, but any judge should look at the case with the verified letter and be like "Uh huh. You`re such concerned parents that you`re bringing this guy up on charges and yet you`d let your daughter marry this guy you think raped her?" Which means, by the way, you`d have to keep this letter safe with someone not living with you. But that`s kind of a tricky way of going about it and I don`t know if you`d want to go that route. But in either case, legally of age or not, your boyfriend would get off of the charges, see? So you don`t have to marry him to save him or anything. And I sooooo wanted to marry my boyfriend when I was 19 and I literally thought I was going to die when he broke up with me. But now I`m 26 and have found a real man and we`re going to live the rest of our lives together and be happy and my idiot ex is now living in Israel and is the complete and utter a-hole he was when I was in college, only now I can actually see it. It took me long enough. But really, after I met my fiance I actually got down on my knees and thanked God that Gil broke up with me because otherwise by now I would have been divorced with a kid or two living in Jerusalem (yeah, I would have moved there for him) and utterly miserable. Right after he broke up with me I prayed with all my heart that the Lord would bring him back to me because Gil was my soulmate, and years later I had to apologize to God (because I had gotten mad at him for not answering my prayer) and then I realized that he did answer my prayer and his answer was no, and thank the Lord for that, because I met a man who God knew truly was the mate of my soul. People change as they get older, and as much as I didn`t believe that at 15 or at 19, I realize now, I`ve grown and changed since then physically - why wouldn`t I change as well mentally? I wouldn`t pick out my entire wardrobe that I`d have to stick to for the rest of my life at 15. (Girl, if I had done that I`d have clothes that were too small and too ugly to even be seen in). Why would I want to pick a man at that age, too? So no matter what your religion (I happen to be Jewish), just please pray that God makes happen the things that are best for you. Because really, I thought I knew what was up and that God was just being spiteful, and in reality - whew -what a mess was I saved from. And I`m not sure how conservative Louisville is, but people might be pushing you to marry this guy because even though you had premarital sex, then it`d be `okay` that you did it if you married the guy afterwards. This way of thinking is from back in the day when women were only worth their virginity b/c it was a slavery thing. Should you be forced to marry the first guy you kissed? I truly hope this works out for you and that you do what`s best for YOU and your heart without anybody else trying to pressure you into something you`re not ready for, because sex is one thing but marriage is a whole other ballpark. Good luck and please be true to yourself, whatever decision you make.