Getting Married Twice

I am a lucky crossdresser. I am getting married twice in Sept 2003. In the first ceremony (mostly private) both my wife to be and I will be wearing wedding gowns. At the second I will wear a standard tux. Can anyone recommend a prelate who would be willing to perform both ceremonies. The first will be the "official" one. I live in Bergen County NJ. Also any help and guidance on large and tall gowns would be appreciated, as would any other help in prepairing myself for this special day.