Long Distance Wedding
I could use a little advice. I recently moved across the country to live with my fiancé. All of my family lives back in my old state, and all of his family lives in our current state. We would like to have our wedding close to where we live, just because it would be easier to arrange. The problem is getting my family here. We have no place for them to stay and no money to fly them here. Neither of our families have much money and we are paying for the wedding ourselves. I’m afraid that I wont have any of my family here for my wedding. Also, my maid of honor (sister) and bride’s maid (best friend) are back in my old state. So how do I have them help me plan things and throw me a shower and bachlorette party? Has anyone out there been in this situation before? What did you do? I could really use some advice on what to do.
Posted by ~Lyn~; updated 02/05/03
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Dear Lyn:
This is not an uncommon situation. It is perfectly acceptable to have 2 weddings and receptions, in 2 different states! Legally, you can only be married in one, but you can always renew your vows at the 2nd ceremony, and have all the trimmings, too. Not many brides can do this, think of the fun you will have!
If you have any more questions, please feel free to email me at Kimber0613@aol.com. I am always available and willing to help!
Posted by Kimberly Lehman; updated 02/05/03
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I recently had my daughter`s wedding in another state. Since I was her florist, cake decorator and wedding cordinator, I know that it was a little stressful..
If you want to get married in the state where your parents are, then have your sister, and your best friend go out and send you information on florist. If you have a Teleflora florist in your town, write down the numbers in the wedding book, and have your family go and have things priced. Find out if you are getting married in your family church, if there is a cake decorator in the church, or as a caterer, I know that cakes are very easy to make. I taught myself to decorate. There are some places that will even rent you the pans, and cake stands for a small fee. Use fresh flowers for the cake and it will be a lot easier.
I hope that this helps. If you need more answers to questions, I would be happy to help you. Congratulations on your impending marriage....
Posted by Sue Coffer; updated 02/05/03
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Hi
My fiance and I live in Ohio, most of our families live in Michigan, Washinton state and California. We are getting married in Key West FL. I have been to the island many times before and have hired a wedding coordinator that is local to KW. She was suprisingly inexpensive!. I sent out "save the date" invitations to everyone that I wanted to invite. We are paying for our own wedding and don`t have alot of money to fly everyone there either. I would love to have my family there to share our special day. Surprisingly, almost everyone that we invited is making plans to come! We made it into a `romantic weekend and a wedding`. Instead of having a reception, we are going on a sunset cruise. It is not a charter, but the boat holds 75 people, We have 44 coming. I plan to have cake that everyone on the ship can share with us. We are then going on a cruise for our honeymoon. Everyone who is coming is paying for their own airfare and hotel. I was able to call a travel agent and set up reduced rates for the block of rooms and everyone will be staying in the same place.
We are shooting video, so that anyone who can`t make it can watch.
Don`t stress about it, is supposed to be your special day, enjoy it and congratulations.
Posted by Christine; updated 01/29/04
