Children At The Wedding

My nephew(my husband`s sisters child) is getting married in about two weeks. He asked me to do all of the flowers for his wedding. He will pay for the flowers used and I will give him the labor and my time. He is getting married about 20 miles from my home. The wedding is at 7:00 pm and I can have access to the venue at 4:30 PM.

My daughter & daughter-in law are helping me with the flowers. Both my daughter-in law & myself are taking a vacation day on the Friday before to purchase the flowers and begin the process.

Last night my nephew call to inform us that children are not invited to the wedding. Both my daughter and daughter-in law have small children and are having to ask friends to baby-sit that Saturday afternoon in order to do the flowers. I am planning to rent a hotel room near the wedding venue to even be able to make it to the wedding on time, because of the short window of time I will have to get the flowers set-up and then back to my house,shower & change and back another 20 miles to the venue(not to mention the amount of gas required).

Now, because of this last minute information regarding children, my two children and their families will not be able to attend the wedding even though they will have expended lots of energy and time helping it to happen.

When my husband called his sister to question the no children rule, she was offended and told us that "her children were always in bed by 7:30 and that weddings were not a place for children".

I certainly understand that this is their perogative but I have been placed in a position of giving a lot of time and money plus that of my daughter and daughter-in law to a couple who appear to be unconcered for others.

If they were paying me for my time, I can understand that they can decide whatever they want but as it is I really feel that they are being extremely rude to me and my family.

Do you think I am completely off base? When my daughter got married, I understood that some people like to bring their childern and I had a special child`s tent with food that they would like. Even small chairs.