Is It Wrong To Get Married W/O Our Families
My Finace and I got engaged last year and since has not gotten any positive support from his family and some of mine. We have been together for 5yrs 6 months and have been living together for 3 1/2 years... So it is pretty much our responsibity to do the wedding.
I`ve started planning for an Oct. Wedding.
He wants to just go to city hall next month and get married, I was raised in a church and will not consider myself married until it`s done in a church, also I want to have a reception.
Can we get married at city hall next month then in Oct. At a church with a reception? We just won`t tell anyone we got married in Feb. Is this wrong or can we pull it off.
Thanks for your help
Posted by tasha; updated 01/28/03
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Tasha
My cousin got married privately the 1st time. Then they had the church thing w small reception for family and friends ,but they always have the memory of there special wedding day. It was very romantic. Hope this works for you.
Posted by jackie; updated 01/29/03
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You could pull it off, but you might be dissappointed you did it like that. It,s a very special day for both of you.I say go with the flow and marry in the church, you won,t regert it. It,s your day.I,ve been to city hall weddings, it,s not a way to go.Best of luck in your wedding.
Posted by Julia; updated 02/01/03
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Of course it`s okay to do that. This is your wedding. I got married about 2 months before my church wedding because my in-laws had a problem with us getting married. We really didn`t care for anyone but ourselves, being that we were the ones who were going to have to do with each other for the rest of our lives. I loved my church ceremony and everything after that but I will always cherish our private wedding to each other more. We make 6 years this summer .
Posted by Michelle; updated 02/02/03
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Well I can`t say it`s wrong but it will come back to haunt you. I look at it this way it`s your life, it doesn`t last forever, do what makes the two of you happy. Your not marrying his family (to a point) and he`s not marrying your family (to a point). I`m in the same situation. We are both divorced come from catholic backgrounds, his family is polish catholic and hung up on the annulments then marriage in the church and he and I are planning a carribean beach wedding with out anybody. So just do what makes you happy, your paying the cost not them. Good Luck!
Posted by Kathy; updated 02/06/03
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I dont think that it is wrong to take off and get married my husband and i did just 3 months ago. We got lots of you dont need to get married your to young because i am 20 and he is a few years older, they dont like the age diff. Either. In jan. We decided to get married we got on line found a preacher in miami and her husband took all of our pics we had the most fun ever it was the first time i got to see the beach we are from wv. I think a small wedding is a wonderful idea because you dont have to spend so much money for something everybody wants and you dont and having a small wedding lets you have a honeymoon with more spunk it is just my thoughts oh and i am had my wedding reception at the skating rink i think it fits everything well because of our age and our wedding cake was called the mad hatter it fits our age also
Posted by billie; updated 02/22/03
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Well, think of it this way...do you think your/his parents will get even more mad if they are not invited to the wedding? I would think that even if they don`t like the fact you are getting married they would still be sad that they were not invited. And if you were to have a MIL like mine, she would never forgive you!
Posted by crusins_girl; updated 02/22/03
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Well my fiance and I are going to jamaica after we graduate in May and are getting married there. My family is not ideal, so it would just be better to go away and enjoy our day without any negativity. We invited anyone who wants to go to come, but it is our day and that is what we are focused on. Do what makes you happy, not what makes everyone else happy.
Posted by Shelby; updated 02/22/03
