Marry Someone I Love?

I am a 21 year old female, who is responsible for my age. I have just attained an AAS degree and do have a brand new car, good job. I also have a best friend for 2 years (22 years old) who has the same, and is finishing up his 2 year degree. My best friend of 2 years told me he loves me alot and I love him too. Well we want to get married. We`ve talked about this a couple of months , so we are wanting to go ahead and go through with it. We`re Christians, so we`ve never had sex,lived together, he`s just been my best friend and been with me through everything. We are doing it the right and old-fashioned way. Because we just broke it to our families that we want to do this soon, but will more likely have a wedding later when we save up more money, our family thinks we are crazy. They are not happy with it and I don`t know what to do. After this semester of school, (I am still continuing my education) I am probably going to be moving out of state. He wants to be married to me and help me through the process and go with me. Should we put off the marriage because are parents don`t approve?.. Everyone thinks we are great for eachother, but the shock was too much for the family. And people think the decision was too quick. Ofcourse it was a quick reveal for the family. "Mom I`m getting married next week, is not the best way to break it" but I do love him and there is a wonderful 3 day Christian event going on that we are attending and have to get a hotel for. I think it is a perfect honeymoon as well, and we know with our love and wanting to be married if we stop the engagement due to our parents then take off together for the weekend, it will be uncomfortable being together in a hotel and we`d probably wind up leaving.... What should I do? Any suggestions I do appreciate . Thanks and God bless ....
Posted by christina; updated 07/24/06

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I have a similar problem. I am also a christian, but haven`t been a very good one. I am also 21 and I have a son that will be 2 in August. My sons father and I were not together through my pregnancy, but decided to work things out after Ryan was born. I love Casey (Ryan`s father). We got engaged February 14th of 2005. My family went nuts. They told me I was stupid and that I was too young and didn`t know what I was doing. Casey`s family was completely supportive and have been. We`ve been living together for the past year. I am also a student and it was cheaper for me to stay a "single" parent in order to get my school paid for. It finally got the best of us recently, and we have decided to start planning our wedding and we set a date for next May. Once again, his family is delighted, but my family still isn`t being completely supportive. They still just shrug it off as young and stupid. My best advice to you, because it is what I have done, is to do what your heart says is right. If you two love each other, then there is no reason that you shouldn`t be together. Parents have to learn to let their children live their own lives and make their own decisions. I hope everything works out for you too!
Posted by Dani; updated 07/24/06