MY MOM TOOK MY QUINCE AWAY

It sounds like your mother needs to have some kind of counseling because if that is the way that she acts, she hasn`t grown up much. Instead of worrying about a Quince, you need to worry about your relationship with your mother and then, the Quince will happen. Talk to a counselor at school or a Priest at Church and together work on your relationship and I believe from there, your mother will work on your Quince as it is important to you both, even if she isn`t acting as if it is right now, or your mother could probably be reacting to the fact that she can`t afford it and would rather make it seem like a punishment rather than admit that she can`t afford it.

Wow, I totally agree your relationship with your mom should be the most important thing right now. I gather she is a single mom under alot of stress. As a single mom myself I understand the pressures and sometimes I feel my 13 year doesn`t appreciate the sacrifices because she is so used to getting everything she wants from both myself and her dad and her older brother. But I thank God that we both have God in our lives and we are able to talk through things and she apologizes for her insensitivity and I for my shortcomings. We started planning her Quince. She wants a Fairytale Quince - it will be pretty awesome Quince with all the detailing going into the planning. I am lucky that her dad and her aunts are helping out but I know I am going to be working pretty hard to make this event a very special one for her. Her them song is a A Dream is A Wish you Heart Makes and I am going to make it happen to her but she also knows that she has to put her part in it.. I ask that she does well in school, carries herself as a young lady with respect above all. When I ask her to help out I expect for her to pull her weight as well. This is a joint effort. Like I said it sounds like youir mom is under a lot of pressure, feels unappreciated and has other issues that she hasn`t worked out. As her daughter you need to be more sympathetic to her and be as helpful as you can unselfishly. Hug her once in a while and tell her that you love her and appreciate all she does for you. Agree that you haven`t been acting very deservingly but that you would like to change that and if you have a Quinceanera that would be great but if not that you would understand. If it is a matter of money perhaps you can do a part time job and help pay for something, your dress. The important thing is that you communicate with her and she with you in a positive way. I sometimes have to blow up at my daughter when she starts thinking of herself but after i calm down we talk like to civilized people. I hear what she has to say and she hears what I have to say, we apologize for our behavior, embrace and move on. We are humans and imperfect. We are going to make mistakes along the way, but we should be learning from them and not be punished. Of course, you are 15 and in every essence are already a young woman of which a Quince has nothing to do with that. Therefore, remember that every decision you make will have consequences. Now it is up to you whether those consequences are positive or negative. I wish you and your mom all the best. I will be praying for you both and I hope you get your Quince you have been dreaming about but it is now up to you how you handle it and how you sbring in 2007. You only have a few months to go. God Bless