Flat Broke

Kim, I am sure that both of you are working. Why must people have big weddings if they can`t afford it. What you do is to have a small ceremony in someone`s backyard or in the park, have a cookout and have people bring different foods while you get the meats and have family members cook on the grills. Your wedding is your celebration. I do sympathize with your situation but you both knew that you wouldn`t be able to have the wedding of your dreams so you either wait until you can afford it or you just don`t get married. No offense to anyone but there is a lot of begging on this site. People are coming on this site for advice and many of us are working, living paycheck to paycheck and still working on our weddings. I want to help people but I need proof. How do we know he is a veteran? How do we know that you are broke? Everyone has a sob story.

WOW MARY! If I were looking for sympathy I`d have written Oprah,. Your reply was uncalled for! Please don`t take me for a fool because of what I wrote. It`s quite obvious my fiance` would provide proof of being a Veteran but since you`re not offering anything what do we have to prove to you.
To those who`ve given positive replies, thanks so much!
To Mary and anyone else with a negative attitude, if you`re not here to help (i.e. Suggesting a back yard wedding-WE DON`T OWN OR KNOW ANYONE WITH A BACK YARD) we`re very open to positive suggesitons. Any bit of advice helps!
Thank you,
Kim & Fiance`

Hi Kim
I can completely relate to your problem because I am going through the exact same thing-my fiance had to come to home to a very unsupportive country-he made more money over seas-but back to you. The only advice I can offer it what was told to me. 1: Only spend money on the MAJOR items such as your dress (I got a gorgeous gown that looks custom made for me for $99 bucks on clearence). Handmake invitaitons ( get some clearence stationary if your handwriting isnt too good spend $2:50 on a stencil set) Dont get married during peak season-this will enable you to find somewhere to have the reception for much cheaper. I dont know if you live in rochester but there are parks like Duran Eastman and the Lake Riley House in Cobbs Hill or the Wegman House in Seneca Park that are priced very reasonably. The cheapest decorations are balloons and they still look fab. Spend a good 45 dollars in the dollar store and you could decorate the whole place in all white. For my reception all the older family members will be doing the cooking and each brides maid is bring a dish. Or if you want you coud go with a theme wedding-Christmas would be a good one because there is already lights and decorations everywhere. All I am trying to say is the most important thing about your wedding is that you get married-all the frills and lace are just extra crap. If you focus on creating a happy life togther you could get married under a bridge and still be a blushing bride. Good Luck.