Wanting A Second Baby-Baby Shower
Here goes...We`re pregnant with our second child, our first turns three this month. The second due in July.
I have no real close friends..a neighbor friend does stuff together and we have play dates but i couldn`t lean on her to have a shower for me. My Mother says its against etiquitte for the mom or sisters to hold the shower although for my first one a sis came down from out of state and planned it at our church. She is now mad at me and thats too long to get into. My other sis is a travelling nurse. Our first child has practically worn out everything we bought him, and we did buy all the big ticket items-crib, stroller,changing table ect..
He has climbed the changing table till we couldn`t fix it anymore,lol. The crib also became unsteady and we`ve already purchased a new one. We are going to have to purchase a new stroller as well b/c he inadvertantly broke the hinge that holds the back up or reclines it..needless to say it would be nice to have a shower for at least the fun stuff . Does anyone have any suggestions. Moneys not a worry with my Parents or sisters-just etiquitte with my mom... I would foot the bill happily and have suggested it to my mom as long as she sends out the invites but she refuses,lol. I would hold it at my house even. I don`t know what to do, whats wrong with wanting a shower??? Mom did suggest a baby shower luncheon" but who would hold it??? Great idea but i can`t impose on these new friends. Any ideas, suggestions, or opinions are welcome. Thank you, Jeannie
Posted by Jeannie; updated 01/11/03
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First of all, Congratulations Jeannie.
I am not sure what the proper ettiquette for having a 2nd baby shower is but I wanted to give you my opinion anyway. So here goes... My brother had a baby shower for his wife`s second child (first child is from a previous relationship) and he held it at thier home. He sent out the invitations and I made the favors, centerpieces and decorated. She was out shopping with him the day of the shower and didn`t have a clue we were having a shower. My mother was not too happy with the idea of having a second shower (same reason as your mother) but we had one anyway. We ALL had a great time. You said that you don`t mind paying for the shower nor do you mind having it at your home, why don`t you have the shower yourself and call it a "Family Celebration", or do what your mother suggests and have the luncheon. You or your husband can send out the invitations. After the baby is born it won`t matter who had the party, just that you all had a good time.
Posted by awilda; updated 01/13/03
