Couples From Different States

I just got engaged and I am originally from the midwest and my fiancee is from the east coast. We decided to have the wedding in Philadelphia where he is from as well as that is where we both live now. The main reason why we chose to have it in Philly vs Chicago (where I am from) is because my family is so much smaller then his...two irish cathlic families and also because I do not want to plan a wedding in chicago while living in Philly. Our dilema is whether to do it downtown or in the burbs where we live

My husband and I chose to have a wedding and reception in my hometown and have another reception in his hometown. It worked out wonderfully and I got to wear my dress twice!

I think that you should, least consider to either move out where your boyfriend lives, or for him, or to me find someone else in your state, so think about it and let your mind and heart guide you.

Kristen,
My fiance and I also had this problem, I`m from the west coast and he`s from the east coast. Currently we are both living on the east coast. However, the decision was actually quite easy for us. What you need to do is look at the logistics. For us there were two factors, family size, and family wealth. My family is not only tremendously larger, but also more working class, not a lot of money, it would have been a hardship for even my parents and sister to come out here for a wedding. His family, however, is rather small, and more well off, middle-class. So it is not really a terrible hardship for them to go to the west coast for the wedding. So, it just made more sense to have it in Washington verses Pennsylvania. As far as the planning goes, it does make it a little more difficult, but I have people there who I trust and know my tastes who can help me out. Plus with the internet you can get a lot of information and such about places and things and even order things you want. We`re also planning on going out there at the end of this summer to get things started and set up (the wedding isn`t until next summer). Anyway, I really think you should just consider the logistics for each family, what they can and cannot do, who would be hardest for to travel, etc. And even size and then go from there. Hope this helps to give you some kind of direction. Good luck!