Bridesmaids
I was wondering how to Deal with a Difficult Bridesmaid. My Fiance has twin sisters & I`ve asked both to be my Bridesmaids & I also asked my Best Freind to be my Maid of Honor & another Freind to be a Bridesmaid but my Problem is when we Discuss issues like How much the Bridesmaids Dresses are
She Claims it`s to much Money or she Doesn`t Have the Money Right Now. I even went so far as to let her know That The Dresses & Shoes I`d picked out would be $150.00 & that I would buy their wraps . Needless to say it caused a Tantrum of I Don`t have the MONEY
& that was 6 Months BEFORE I wanted to order the dresses. I really want to include her in the Wedding but It`s getting difficult to deal with her. It`s getting Bad because my Maid Of Honor Doesn`t want to stand next to her at the wedding. HELP. Any Ideas are GREATLY Helpful.
Thank You
Tami
Tksavon@Yahoo.com
Posted by Tami; updated 12/30/02
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You know this is your day you don`t really need to be stress any time before or during your day. I would just ask her if she really want to be in the weddingbecause you want her to be in it but you need to get their dresses and accessories out of the way. You will understand if she didn`t want to be in it for finacial reasons but maybe she can help you out in an more important way like making sure that their dresses are in order how they should hold the mens arm coming down the ailes or what ever find her something to do and make it seem very important. It sounds like you are using psycology on an child right but sometime adults act like children and not even realize it. But you have to make sure that you are very concerned about her happiness even though this i suppose to be your time see if that work good luck email casandraypb@msn.com
Posted by cassandra; updated 12/31/02
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My bridesmaids and I came up with the idea of having a garage sale with all of us actively looking for items from the community to sell for it. We are going to use that money to buy the dresses and shoes.
Posted by Nikki; updated 04/17/04
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Anyone that is worried about "paying" and complaining about the dress price,
SHOULD NOT BE IN YOUR WEDDING!!!
Obviously they are more concerned
Of there wallet than YOU!!!
They could do payments at the bridal store (deposit and in parts)
They cannot take the dress till its paid off anyway.
DEFINETELY SHOULD NOT PARTICIPATE IN YOUR WEDDING PARTY!
Actually $150 is the normal price(well sewn designed).
I`ve been in some weddings and paid over $200dress, plus shoes and accesorries.
Think about it!
And you shouldn`t offer to pay either.
When someone says they have no money that really means they are not interested.
Posted by coordinator; updated 04/17/04
