Invite You Ex To The Wedding Or Not?

My husband invited his ex to our wedding. I told him that he could because they are still friends and I meant it. If she didn`t mean it, then she should not have told you that you could. No man knows what a woman means unless she comes right out and says it. I looked at it as an honor, he is showing her that we are getting married and she has now been OUR friend for 11 years. We were IN her wedding 6 years ago. You need to tell your bride to let it go. It happened in the past and leave it there or she will never be able to move forward in life with you. SHE told you that she didn`t mind you having that girl there, so she put her foot in her own mouth. If she didnt` mean it, then she should have voiced her opinion. She lied to you. She went into that marriage with that lie and now she can`t let it go. Ask her if she would like a divorce because of it and if she says no, then tell her to shut up, move forward and get over it. It was years ago. You can`t grow if you are still at your starting point! Good luck because she doesn`t seem mature enough to handle a marriage or relationship if she hasn`t put this behind her. It`s over and she is the reason that it happened to begin with. She just can`t seem to live with HER decision.

I agree with Beth but not completely. I agree that she should have been honest with her feeling from the start and that she should have loved and trusted that you would be able to handle her feelings. She should have said, listen, this is my day and I would rather we not include any of our ex`s in the celebration. I want this to be about us. She didn`t do that but I don`t think that she is immature. I honestly dont` know what to think. My ex husband invited me to his wedding and I am inviting him and his wife to mine. I was not hurt and neither was she. She was too happy to be worried about me and I was far too passed that relationship to worry about him. Talk to her. Tell her that you thought that when she stated that you could invite her, that you really thought that she was sincere about it and you really did not mean to cause her years of pain. Apologize and ask her to forgive you but not just to forgive, but also to forget so that you guys can enjoy your marriage and each other. Hopefully this will not put your marriage in a strain. I will pray for you and your wife that you put things back together.

I think that your wife has a reason to be upset but moreso with herself! She should have never said that you could bring your ex if she wasn`t comfortable with it but I also want to know why you would ask for your ex to be at your wedding? I find that a little strange. Have you and your wife had dinner with this woman? Have you introduced her before and they became friends in order for you to want her to be there? What was your reasoning for wanting her to be there?

Thanks for all of your imput. I do agree with many points that were addressed and I will surely take them to heart with my bride.

Thanks again

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