Help!! The Only Gifts That We Need Is Cash

I am honestly quite amazed at what I am seeing on this website. "Bridezilla" should be added to this year`s Webster`s Dictionary as a new word!

What is the harm in preferring money for your wedding gift? In my opinion, it`s siller for a bride to "assume" that a guest is not going to bring a gift to the wedding, then figuratively gasp and widen her eyes in amazament when she receives a toaster or blender or whatever. Let`s be realistic here - you would blast whatever guest showed up at your wedding without a gift in hand - you would just do it at home rather than publicly.

Far as I`m concerned, as long as your verse or poem includes something that says that their presence is enough, but if they want to bring a gift, money is greatly appreciated, that`s enough for me. I have received many invitations to that effect, and I`m not the least bit offended by that.

Have you ever gone to a restaurant and put your money on the table, including a tip, then the server comes up and says "I`ll be back with your change"? When you say "no, that`s fine", the server acts like you just descended from heaven and says, "OH THANK YOU!" Pul-eeze. Like they didn`t expect a tip. Same thing here, ladies.

This is 2006. Ask for what you want, but don`t demand anything. Don`t make apologies for your preferences. Simple and plain. The hell with little-old-lady etiquette - do what you need to do.

First, you should never put registry information on your invitations. Registry Info should go out word of mouth. Also if you put up a website, and place the link on your invites, then you can say you are saving for a house, donations would be appreciated, or even open a special account at the bank for that!

Good luck!

Here is the put verse to put inside of your invitations. I am getting married and I am using it as well.

Here is the perfect verse to your situation. I am getting married next year and will be using this in mine....

They have their dishes and towels for two
They have pots and pans and oven mitts too
So what do you get for the bride and groom
Whose house is set up in everyroom??
Their house needs repairs and some upgrades too
But you can not register for carpet and glue.
An envelope will be provided for those who have room
To give a monetary wish to the bride and groom.

Let me know what you think.

Thanks Patricia for that little poem. My friend is getting married and she already lives with her fiance. They have everything for the house and they will need money after the wedding. I will suggest your poem. Thanks again!

RUDE!!! RUDE!!! RUDE!!! I was recently invited to a wedding shower and on the invitation was a cute little poem saying how the couple has everything they need and merely wanted cash to pay for their honeymoon! I think it is incredibly rude! If you can`t afford to go on an extravagent honeymoon, then plan something you can afford. Or the cash that you do receive from your shower/wedding put it toward your honeymoon but don`t expect guests to pay for your trip.
It really has become a "Me, Me, Me" society. And did I mention, it`s RUDE?!?

Hi, im from venezuela and here its not rude at all that the newlyweds ask for money. In my opinion wedding registry is not that nice, usually one cant get all one wants from one store, and if you let guests give you what they need you might end up with bunch of stuff you dont need or with same gift twice, etc.

I didnt like much the idea of asking money, til ppl explained me why, there are many messages here to let guests know that one wants money, but the one i decided was just a small card in the invitation which it didnt really say anything, it just has a lot of of $ symbols... And here that makes ppl know you rather cash gift. Hope it helps.