Hispanic / Latino / Chicano Wedding
My future mother inlaw is telling my fiance that my parents have to pay for everything and I would like to know is that true because I thought you should only do that with white family or other. I mean we hispanics have to many family and from my other families they all have helped if they wanted but I have never heard of the brides family have to pay for everything. What do you think please reply asap my future mother is getting me more mad every other day that I have to hear that again.
Posted by Maria; updated 11/18/02
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Maria, it is likely that you and your groom may contribute to the cost of the wedding and honeymoon, even though tradition calls for the bride`s parents to pay for the wedding. It`s going to take cooperative effort and the groom`s family may have to take on some of the expense. Traditionally, the bride`s parents do provide a major portion to the wedding. Some of which consists of the following (just to name a few): reception site, food and beverages, photography/videography, invitations and announcements (to include postage and other fees), etc. The groom` s parents, in most cases, voluntarily assumes traditional expenses, but the following are expamles of traditional obligations: hosting the rehearsal dinner, gift(s) to the bride and groom, their own lodging and travel expense (if needed), etc. If you want the wedding of your dreams ( but within means), sit down with your groom and discuss if it`s worth having the parents fight over who pays for what. Maybe you should consider paying for the wedding yourselves. In doing so would mean you have all the say in what goes into your wedding and you shouldn`t feel guilty about it. Another idea is, maybe sitting down with a Wedding Consultant (for a minimal fee) and have her help you get everything in order for you.
If you wish to discuss this further just email me.
Meanwhile, good luck in your preparations and future.
Posted by Yolanda; updated 11/19/02
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I was searching on the internet for an answer onwho pays for what traditionally in a hispanic wedding. One family says one thing and vice versa. I wanted everyone to just help with what they can. Now though my fiancée`s family do not feel like my family`s contribution is enough. My family feels that whatever budget we have it will work. All of the strees and chaos has put damage into my fiancée and my relationship. I have been suggested a wedding coordinator but when the whole issue is money, how can I add on another expense.
Posted by Marie; updated 01/30/10
