Guest List

My daughter and future son-in-law are arguing over the guest list. It seems he wants to invite just about everyone he knows at the expense of possibly not even letting his parents invite anyone...plus he wants my daughter to cut her list even though she`s already inviting fewer people than him...How can she reason with him?
Posted by Diane; updated 02/09/06

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Dear Diane, Not knowing very much as to the ages of the bridal couple or what the budget is for the wedding, it is a bit difficult to really give much advise. Are the couple sharing the cost of the wedding? Are the parents helping with the expenses. In other words who will be paying for the rehearsal dinner, the wedding and reception. Is the groom paying for all of this? If he is not, then it is up to the Bride`s family to set the number of guests to be invited and allowing the Groom`s family a say in who they wish to invite. I am sure that the groom is very excited and overjoyed at his up coming wedding and wants to share it with the whole world, but with all due respect, this isn`t just his special day, and in all fairness to the lady he says he loves, I am sure she wants to share this day as well. When is the wedding? Hopefully you will be able to resolve this problem, and do be patient with the parties involved. It might be to your advantage to hire a wedding coordinator to assist in handling this. If there is one in your area, check them out. We manage to get some of these problems smoothed out as well as saving money in the long run for the whole wedding party. I speak from experience and have had to solve some of the same issues for several bridal couples. This is such a joyous occasion and one that you will look back on with happy memories, so stay calm and go with the flow. Congratulations to all. Maria Louise
Posted by Maria Louise; updated 02/09/06