Ediquette
My neice is getting married. She invited the family to the bridal shower but not the wedding. The wedding will be held out of the country but only her mother, brothers and father`s side of the family was invited to attend the wedding. Is this proper ediquette? Should relative be invited to give gifts but not be invited to the wedding? I also understand we`ll be invited to the reception which will also suggest a gift be given.
Posted by M; updated 11/07/02
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They may be trying to stick to a small budget. What about the groom`s family? I could understand if it was immediate family members only, but sounds like it`s her immediate family...only. That seems a bit strange.
Posted by Michelle; updated 11/10/02
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I was told that I shouldn`t list the place we registered at on our e-mail reminders about the wedding. Is that really a no-no? I think it would be a good idea, but my father thinks not. Please help.
Posted by Sarah; updated 03/21/03
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How else will people know where your registered at?? you registered for a reason to let people know wha kinda thing you want and need.
Posted by MANDEE; updated 03/21/03
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"I was told that I shouldn`t list the place we registered at on our e-mail reminders about the wedding. Is that really a no-no? I think it would be a good idea, but my father thinks not. Please help."
You`re father is right. You don`t list your registry information. It looks greedy and presumptous and if you are truly interested in proper etiquette you will not initiate mention of gifts to your guests. Your guests, if they wish to know where you are registered, will ask! Make sure your immediate family members and your bridesmaids know where you are registered. If guests don`t ask you directly, they are very likely to ask your mother or you maid of honor or one of your maids.
Posted by Randee; updated 03/26/03
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My niece recently got married, small intimate ceremony at city hall. Due to their schedules, this will do for now.
My step-sister, who got invited to the shower, did not get an invitation to the wedding. She is quite upset about it, she stated, anyone who gets invited to the shower, should be invited to the wedding!!
What is proper??
Posted by Sherry; updated 04/23/03
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Only people that are invited to the wedding are to be invited to the shower. In the case of only having a small civil ceremony or whatever, announcements of the wedding can be sent out, and then those people can choose weather or not to send a gift.
Posted by Jemmy; updated 04/23/03
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My companion and i are at odds at what to do for his sons wedding. We were asked how we would like to be announced as, both of us are very close to both of them,and there is an x-wife who is not close to the to-be daughter-in-law and we have been living together for 6yrs but his x is very jealous of me an her sons relationship as well as her postion in the family . We want to do whats right so what would be the proper way to be annouced?
Posted by deborah smith; updated 04/29/03
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I think you could have them announce....The Father of the groom...Mr. Jim Smith and Ms. Liz Taylor...
Or something to that effect. Any other ideas?
Posted by Jemmy; updated 04/29/03
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You are are never required to send a gift but is the nice thing to do. If you are invited to the reception take that as an honor because that is the most expencive part of a wedding.
Posted by Mari; updated 06/08/03
