Making Final Decisions
My daughter is getting married in april. We have planned the wedding and put the plans into motion. For some reason the grooms mom and sister want to express their wishes and have them followed as far as what the wedding party should wear and what the people coming should wear. It is an outside wedding, we live in the desert. My daughter has decided on the bridesmaids wearing corrsetts and jeans with high heels. Something she seen in a magazine. We have told the guest to dress casual and comfortable due to the fact they are sitting on concrete at the ourside theater. Both myself, husband and daughter feel sincce we are paying for the wedding and it is our daughters wedding they should have no say. Their only responsibility is the rehersal dinner and we haven`t said a word...what is the proper ediquette in traditional weddings?
Posted by Tandy; updated 01/25/06
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The proper ettiquette is the brides parents pay for the wedding and flowers, etc. The Groom`s pay for the reception and rehearsal dinner. But, that being said, now days anything goes. What matters is what your daughter and her fiance want. It is their day and no one else`s. Go ahead and let them(his parents) voice their opinion(to avoid futher confrontation), but in the end the ultimate result is going to be what your daughter and her finace want.
Posted by Elizabeth; updated 01/25/06
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The ettiquette is the bride`s parents pay for the wedding and its contents and the groom`s the reception and the rehearsal dinner. But now days anything goes. I would let them(groom`s family) voice their opinion (to avoid further confrontation) and go ahead with the plans. It is your daughter and her finace`s day and no one else`s. If your daughter wants e1 to dress in jeans and high heels, that is her prerogative. Ultimately, no matter what anyone says her day will be the way that she wants it. If it makes them feel better to say "how it should be" then let them, it won`t affect the outcome anyway.
Posted by Elizabeth; updated 01/25/06
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I agree with the above, but with one added question: Why is the groom apparently getting off scott-free when it comes to dealing with his family? He and the bride and the major financial contributors are responsible for making their dreams happen. The bride needs to voice any concerns to him, then he needs to stand up to his family. If he will not do this now, he will not do it after the wedding either, and this is a problem!
Posted by Valerie Linker; updated 01/27/06
