How Do You Handle Parents?

I`m 21 and engaged to my high school sweetheart (he`s 6 months older than me). We`ve been together for almost 6 years, know each other for 7 and a half. I`m first generation Filipino-American and my financé is 100% white. We`re waiting until after I graduate college to get married at my parents` request. Anthony will only have 4 months left of school but he`ll be working. Here`s the deal:

We got engaged (after years of thought and prayers) last New Year`s Eve. My mom didn`t speak to me for THREE months after that. She still isn`t speaking to my fiancé. My family, save for my sister and a few cousins close in age, are in complete denial about this. No one refers to Anthony as my fiancé, sometimes not even my boyfriend.

Mom completely ignores him and never acknowledges his presence even when he`s only a foot away. Dad doesn`t say much, he just gets on my case when I bring Anthony his food at a café (you know when you have to pick up your food and drinks at a window? Well my drink and his food were ready at the same time, why wouldn`t I pick it up at the same time?)

Everyone who has been with us through our relationship (our close friends and above all my sister!) are completely supportive. They, like us, know that marriage is the next step for our relationship. Anthony`s parents completely support us and they haven`t ignored me one bit.

Sometimes I wonder if I would be having all these problems if Anthony were Asian, preferably Filipino, but certainly Asian. My parents aren`t racist, don`t get me wrong, but they always try to find something wrong with the relationship; something, I might add, that isn`t even a grounded argument.

How do/did you all deal with unsupportive parents?