Changing My Childerns Last Name

Why would you change your children`s names? He is still their father, even if he isn`t your husband. The kids should keep their names the same. To change a name though, you usually have to apply through vital statistics. For children`s names to be changed, usually you need both parents to sign the documents. There also is a charge.

Sarah thank you for your reply on the other hand their father went to the pen and is out now and has never even attempted to get in contact with them or send them a dime in the last 6 years so you tell me why should they continue to wear this name he as taken on a new family and claimes another woman children s he wont even pick up the phone to call them and he has the number again thanks i will try the public health building

My intention wasn`t to offend you, and it wasn`t to defend him. I don`t know you or your ex-husband, my intention was to indicate that when a child is raised with one name, that name is their identity. To change that identity, no matter the reason, may be harmful to their sense of self. Depending on the age of the child, they may be perfectly fine with it, be angry with you for doing it, be confused, or feel lost. I would talk to your kids about it and see how they feel about changing their last name before going ahead and doing it. Again, my intention is not to upset you, only to present to you other arguments. Changing one`s name is not a small detail, and therefore all ramifications of the action should be examined.