Rehearsal Dinner
We have agreed to pay for my sons rehearsal dinner but now more people have been added to this sit down restaurant dinner there are about 20 where as we agreed to pay for 14. They are not in the wedding party do we pay for them to or ask them to pay there own meal cost. We do not want to sound cheap but they have just recently been added and we are debating as to have a message on our special menu we have been told to pick without the prices on it with a message saying we are only responsible for the wedding party does this seem tacky. We are not rich people. My wife wants to
Go ahead and pay I do not What is proper? thanks Larry
Posted by Larry; updated 10/10/05
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Larry,
It depends on who these people are. Etiquettely speaking, the groom`s family pays for the rehearsal dinner-those invited should be: the wedding party, their spouses, the immediate family of the bride and groom, the minister, the singers/musicians for the wedding ceremony if they are not paid professionals.
It is not a rule to invite out of town guests who have come a long distance to the wedding, but it is a nice gesture. If that is the situation, and the guests are the bride`s friends or family, the groom should approach the bride and tell her that the budget for the dinner does not include these people. If the bride`s family wants them there, they should be asked to chip in.
Posted by Valerie Linker; updated 10/11/05
