RE: DECLINING A WEDDING INVITATION

When I made out my wedding list I only sent invites to people who would really actually show and to those who I have had some form of relationship or another I simply will put in the mail an annoucement to let them know they were thought of and not left out and this way when the idea of a gift comes up they know they are not aboligated to send a gift, card, or money, and when I put in the response card I will have plus one or plus five because I actually know my guests and their families. I would not exclude anyone I thought cared about me and I have any kind of relationship with from family to co-worker I know about their lifes and who is involved in what activities. I was rasied by a northern from Maine and show up to a place you are not invited or what have is just not done, but having lived in the south things are different so showing up to where you think you should be invited is so done. So, I guess it matters where you are brought up and taught.