Dropping A Braidsmaid

Why not have your bridesmaids buy their own dresses. That is what we are doing for our wedding and we even let them pick out their own style - all I told them was they had to have a certain color and to keep the color the exact same they had to order from the same designer. It has worked out wonderfully.

Your bridesmaids are responsible for their own bridal wear. You are not responsible for that. If you feel that you would like to fund that and make that the gift, to keep both, ask them to pay half for their gowns. Also look for bargains, maybe something off the rack on sale at a bridal show usually you can get them for half than at the stores. I really think that when you ask someone to be your bridesmaid, that they are supposed to cover the cost of their gowns and accessories and you buy them a gift.

No, its not okay to drop a bridesmaid, especially one that`s looking forward to being by your side.Now, if she really doesn`t mind , then that`s another story. Maybe you could cut down on the cost of the dresses.

I really think that in composing a classy wedding, you should offer to pay for the bridesmaid gowns yourself. It is tacky to have them pay for their own things for YOUR wedding. Take them along to help pick out the gowns and then you wont have drama over it.

In the etiquette book it states that the bridesmaids pay for their gowns. It is NOT tacky that they pay for them when etiquette states that they should. It is their responsibility to do so or not be in the wedding. Even in all books that states who pays for what, it shows under the bridesmaids that they pay for their gowns and many state that you can pay for their jewelry for the gift. You would not have to get rid of a bridesmaid if they are paying for their gowns. Check many websites, the little "Everything" books and any other etiquette books where it states that they pay for their own gowns, shoes and accessories, shower gift, part of the bridal shower and bachelorette party, transportation to and from the wedding and a gift for the couple. Now if you choose to pay for that, it is different but when you ask someone to be in your wedding, it is with the understanding that they know they will be paying for these things. I also like what Mika wrote because offering to pay for half is great since I have been in 4 weddings (friends whom were all in my wedding) and we paid for our own gowns and accessories. What was nice was that since we are all still friends, we figured that the jewelry sets that we got for the first couple`s wedding, we recycled and wore for each others wedding. It was very nice.