My Fiancee Left Me!!! Help (sob)

Ryan,

Ok this is probably going to be the strangest suggestion anyone has ever made in this situation but there is a reason you have not moved on. Get a hold of the ex, then ask her to meet you, just her and you some where that the two of you can have privacy but at the same time you both feel safe that things will not get out of hand.

Once you have agreed on a location and date and time meet her but before you meet her cry get it out of your system as much as possible. Then sit down with her calmly and ask her for an honest answer. Ask her exactly why is ended and when she wanted out. You may not like the honesty or the answers but trust me you need it at this point.

Here is why I make this suggestion. See I was the opposite as you, my ex of 7 years left me, but I never cried nothing why because I am the kind of person that I was not about to collapse or let my life fall apart after he left me but at the same point I could not move on relationship wise because in all honesty I had no idea what happened or why.

Then I recommend calling or getting together with your best guy or female friend that you feel you can open up to and pour out your heart to. Having one last good cry will help to release the pain your feeling. Maybe if you realize some of her reasons for leaving were things out of your control it will help you release that pain.

So I finally told him he needed to come over be a man and confront me like an adult. We sat down one evening just the two of us and talked and finally cleared the air. I found out why some of the reasons I could have changed to save the relationship but others reasons there was nothing I could do to save it.

But trust me when I say that night while he was there and after he left I cried good and hard for a long time. Then after that I picked up a phone called my best friend (that just happens to be a guy) and talked to him for a while and by the time I hung up with him I was ready to move on. (NO I did not jump into a relationship that night or that week or that month or even the rest of that year) but I was ready to try to casually date.

I have to agree with some of the others though you do need to find something to occupy your time. Think back has there ever been anything you have always wanted to try or something you just have not had the time to pursue, do it now.

Good luck. Life will go on and you will find someone out there for you, not now, but eventually. After a while I found someone, it has been 6 years since my ex left me, but now I am engaged and looking forward to my wedding next year.

Take Care Ryan.