Wedding Vow Renewal

I don`t see there being a problem with renewing your vows on the day you want to..afterall it`s YOUR day! Friends of mine did this and just placed small reminders in the centerpiece stating the date of their original vows. Congratulations on your special occassion! Kelly, Petra Fashions Consultant - offering designer lingerie at affordable prices.

Wow, your question hit the spot. My husband and I were married Aug 22, 1994 at the courthouse and said we would have a church wedding on our 10th annivesary. It falls on a Sunday and I would like to have it on Sat also.
I would like to hear your ideas on what you are doing for the special day. I would like to have a big church wedding with reception to follow, just not sure if that`s the way we should go. Like is it proper to have my Father walk me down the aisle? Or have bridesmaid/groomsmen?
Thanks
Maria

No, you would walk down the isle with your husband or alone (by tradition). You can have bridesmades if you want.

Good luck! ( we are renewing our vows March 2004)

For you people interested in renewing your wedding vows, me and my husband are doing our 25th wedding anniversary on July 5,2003 . Our anniversary is June 24th. We are having our three kids and our two grandkids in the party,also our best friends as bestman and maid of houor. Im wearing a wedding gown I never had. Because the first time we walk into the church and said I do,and walk out. We rented a hall,also a Limo, our friend is catering a pig roost and we are making erverything ourself along with a DJ.Our girls are wearing silver dresses , flowergirl and ring berrier. Also throwing my bouquet to single and married women ,single will be next to marry ,and married women next to renew her vows. Along with the garter for the men. Im going to fun ,with this wedding I never had.

Is it really inappropriate to have your father walk you down the isle? My husband & I eloped 12/15/1994 and are planning our 10 year vow renewal. I would have liked to have my father walk me down the isle since he never had the chance to then.

My husband and I are going to renew our vows for our 5th anniversary. We were married in the court house and couldn`t afford a big wedding since we were expecting our first child. We are going to have a formal wedding with close family and friends and I am going to have my 2 young boys walk me down the isle. We will have the dresses, tuxes,and everything else you`d have at a first wedding. I am thinking of exchanging rings. I am buying my husband and new ring and having a saying engraved on it. Does this sound proper? We have had a rough 2 years and we have finally got through all of it, also no one thought we`d make it a year. Please let me know if this sounds fine. Thanks

Jennifer, that sounds wonderful! How did it go?

As for me, our first ceremony (07/31/93) was an utter fiasco. Guests who were not invited - nor liked by either my husband nor myself - showed up and ate the entire buffet before most people could get their fill. We saw the wedding party at McDonald`s later that night. My mother presided over the proceedings as if she was the bride. Everything was done for her.

This time, (07/31/04) we are doing it our way. Now, it is appropriate to have it the way I want it? The big celebration, the dress, the wedding party, just the way we originally wanted it? Or will this make us look petty?

Help!

Tisha

Its the 21st century ladies anything you want to do for renewing your vows is absolutly appropriate. Besides anyone you invite is going to love whatever you do weather its a huge bash or a small party. I was married in the court house 2/14/2005 and when we have the $ in 4 years sat. 2/14/2009 we are going to renew our vows just like it was the 1st time. Bridesmaids big white dress and all!!!!

My husband and i were married in a courthouse. We would like to renew our vows in two years our 10th anniversary. I want the fancy dress, maid of honor and our young children in our cermony. I want to walk down the isle and the reception afterwards.is this considered proper? of course there would be some changes. What is proper? what are some ideas i could use?

Hi there! My husband and I did the same thing. We`ve been married now for ten years. I personally would say that you should have your vow renewal any day you`d like. It`s not the day that matters, really, but the event...what you are recommitting to. Good luck!

Hi Ladies: My husband and I were married in February 1997. We will be renewing our vows next summer. We got married in February because he wanted good carribean weather for the honeymoon. Anyway, that was the deal - Feb wedding in exchange for renewal during 10th year. Besides, I was a bag on nerves because of his mother and really didn`t enjoy my own wedding. It was a beautiful day, 100+ guests, the whole 9 yards. The renewal will be simple and very elegant: on the beach with 30 close friends & family only. The best part - his mother won`t be there!!! A word of advice to anyone planning a wedding/ceremony. It`s your day, not theirs. If someone tries to bully you into doing something for them tell them to a) pull out their checkbook, or b) find their own partner and plan their own wedding (in other words - tell them to get a life and leave yours alone ). As for gifts, we`ll let guests know that gifts are not requested, but they can make a charitable donation to our favorite charity if they wish to do so. Have a beautiful day, and more important, have a beautiful life with the one you love.

Thanks for all this great insight. My husband and I are planning our 5 year vow renewal for `09. We had a decent wedding the first time except the fact he refused to wear a tux. He promises this time if I want it to wear a tux. I found a beautiful place in Ohio that offers vow renewal ceremonies http://www.ohioweddings.net/Ohio_Wedding_Packages.htm It also was news to me that you don`t need a "legal" officiant. With that being said I am thinking of asking my best friend to officiate our vow renewal (she served as my maid of honor the first time). Thank you everyone for the helpful information and good luck with YOUR special day!

Hi girls!
I was wondering what kind of activities you had or plan to have at the reception following the renewal ceremony. I figure a 1st dance with my husband and I, a toast but I would like to do some unique stuff but have been unsuccessful with coming up with anything else. Does anyone have any ides?
Thanks!

The comments above have made me feel better about my own plans of doing a vowel renewal. My husband and I also married quickly in a courthouse, and my family was not there. They didn`t approve of the marriage. He is in the military so it was hard to plan a wedding, so we put it off.. And never quite got around to it. I was a little worried about how people would react to us doing the whole wedding with gown and everything for our 5th year... But i`m glad I ran accross this website, cause now I know it`s acceptable.. And should be about the special day you share with the one you love and not for pleasing other people, those closest to you will understand the significance of such an event. So now I can dedicate myself fully to planning. Good luck to all of you on your special day!

Hello Ladies!
My husband and I are planning our 20 year vow renewal this summer in August of 08. We had a beautiful but unexspensive wedding the first time with family and friends. This time we plan to have a beautiful vow renewal with family and friends except the invintation list will be much bigger. Considering we have kids, grandkids, and many more friends. The ceremony will be in a hall with reception to follow. Our children and grandchildren as attendants. My husband and I will walk together as we have for the last 20 years hand by hand. Ladies remember this is your wedding! Whether it`s your first or renewal, do as you please it`s your day you are the one thats suppose to be happy. CONGRADULATIONS!!!!!!!!!

Well I think I am going to have my 5 year in 2009. Have the wedding in the morning with light refreshments (brunch) and then join in at 6 for the reception/party. I plan to use a theme!

I think it is a wonderful Idea because my husband and I did the exact same thing we have been married 6 years and we decided yesterday to have a renewal may 3rd 2009 on our actual wedding day it is on a sunday and i would prefer a saturday too but I am going with our actual day. Do what makes you happy and that is all that matters..:) good luck

Hey girls!

I`m going through the same thing. When my husband and I got married we had just over a week to pull it off. He was getting ready to join the Military, so we didn`t have enough time or money to do anything big. We were planning the traditional wedding, but had to forget that, and do what we had time for. So, my mother and sisters and I went to the mall, and found a white prom dress for me to wear, called a guy my mom went to school with who`s now a preacher and he officiated at his church. The problem is, I REALLY wanted it at my church, but it wasn`t available, and we only had our immediate family there (parents & siblings) , and we both wish we could have had more family and close friends there to help us celebrate our special day. The acting best man wore blue jeans and muddy work boots, his brother was an "attendant", and my 2 sisters stood with me in regular dresses, and my husband wore black dress slacks with a second-hand sport coat. The reception was a bust, because there was hardly any dancing or talking between families. SO, we`re planning to renew our vows at 6 years because my husband will be out of the Military by then. I plan on wearing the wedding gown I was going to for the large wedding I was planning, and my husband will wear a tuxedo. My husband and I will walk down the aisle together, since my father gave me away at the first one. We won`t be requesting gifts, and the invitations will state that. However, my family and close friends think it would be inappropriate to have attendants. We`d really like to have them, since we had to improvise the first time. They also say a wedding cake isn`t appropriate...I`m clueless! . Please tell me...does it seem petty or stupid to have the wedding dress and tux, attendants, and a wedding cake? PLEASE HELP!!

Thanks!!
Anonymous

My wife and I married on 5 November 2004 - lets just say the day was a disaster - but we are still strong. We wish to renew our vows with a few friends and our 2 young children. On our wedding day the church was great (except the organist was drunk) and the evening; well... After my family got together for the first time in 16 years after a family fued all was great - but it was the joining of our two families (mine and hers) that wasnt so good. The men started fighting with each other after a few drinks and the women decided to join in. Not to mention we had a few members missing (as they are watching us from above) and i had one on his death bed. It all spouted when one of her family said "Just because he`s on his death bed doesnt mean he should ruin their day". That was the cause of it. But it wasnt the fact that my uncle was in hospital on his deathbed that we were not happy - it was the fact the two families ended up fighting. If this never happened our home would be filled with wedding photos from our big day - but instead we have not one picture of our wedding on display. Thats the reason we wish to renew our vows. But we dont know how to go about arranging the ceremony, what location we would like to be at for this (as we can find a lot of package holidays for this). Would you write your own vows or have a standard set of vows? I am just hoping that when we have the date and day sorted it will be a lot better than our wedding day. Any tips / ideas on locations would be appreciated... Lol...