Should A Guest Of A Guest Pay Part Of The Wedding Too?

No offense, but if your boyfriend is that picky about monetary issues now b/f your married, how do you think he will be after your married. Is he going to make you pay for everything in half exactly? that just sounds weird to me. I think whoever was invited to the wedding pays for the gift, if he/she invites a guest, than they are just that, a guest......if he cant afford expensive gifts, than he should just purchase something less expensive.

No, you shouldn`t have to pay. He needs to be responsible for your part of the fee. Remember he invited you.

You are in no way obligated to pay for anything if you were asked to come along as a guest. If an invitation was adressed to you specifically, then maybe, but not if you just came along as an invited guests date.. He would have to pay these fees if you didn`t come as well, so it sounds as though he just wan`ts you to pitch in because he doesn`t want to spend all of HIS money.

Mara,
These other points of feedback are valid, but think about a few things before you begin to hate your bf for being stingy. One: how much money does he really have and how much do you, are you in a comfortable position to pitch in? Did you ever consider offering? Had you ever ment either party of the three weddings you attended?
I have gone to two weddings with my now fiance and pitched in on both. Both I was a guest of my fiance who was a member of the bridal party. The first weding (we had only been datting three months) I chipped in on the gift because I had met the groom a few times and he and my fiance are best friends. The second I payed for my own hotel room and bought my own gift becuase it was my fiance`s brother. But I didn`t recieve my own invitation to either wedding.
Consider the fact that you are attending an event where at least $35-100 has been shelled out so that you could be there. Chipping in on a gift with your bf is simply common curtesy. Anything beyond that is up to you and him to discuss. And finances play a big part, especialy if he doesn`t have alot of extra cash flow.