Need Feedback.. To Soon To Be Married?
I recently met the man of my dreams.. We have only been dating for a month... I love him more than anything in the world and I know he feels the same about me. We have talked about spending the rest of our lives together and getting married. Things are going very fast in our relationship but it seems so right. He is planning on asking me to marry him within the next month. Last week he even went to my parents house and asked for their blessings. :o) I am 20 years old and he is 24... We both have children and a great life. I am not second guessing myself and our relationship in anyway.. I would just like input on what the "right thing" to do is... I have heard that it`s to soon but I have also heard that You know when it is right. "Why wait till tomorrow when you don`t know if tomorrow will ever be" That`s what I go by... Please let me know that my feelings are right and I`m making the right decision for myself and my daughter. Thank you
Isabelle izzylace@hotmail.com
Posted by Isabelle; updated 09/23/05
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Isabelle,
I am 23 years old. I recently got engaged to a man I have been dating for a 1 year and 2 months. Although we waiting that long to get officially engaged, we had decided that we wanted to get married 1 WEEK after we started dating. We decided to wait about 6 months before we started telling people of our intentions. We didn`t want anyone telling us that we didn`t know what we were doing, that it was too soon, and that it was just the excitment of a new relationship...WE knew better. Although I wanted to jump right into it, I knew that we would have problems. If you want everyone to be excited about the new love you found, and to take it seriously...WAIT 6 MONTHS! They will go by faster than you think! You will happy that you did! Good luck, MARY
Posted by Mary; updated 09/23/05
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If he is the right man for you... He will still be the right man for you in a year from now. No need to rush. You both are still young. Get to know each other before you make the committment to marry each other. All relationships are wonderful the first few months. Just give it some time. I promise you that if you get to know each other more before you get married, your chances of staying married are much greater. There are so many nuances about people that you don`t get to see in the beginning stages of a relationship. Living with someone of the opposite sex can be difficult at times, and you want to make sure there are no surprises thrown your way once you have made the committment to him through marriage vows. Good Luck to you!
Posted by wknapp; updated 09/23/05
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Hi there i just read your message and had to give my opinion, I love testifing to love what i mean is i explain using myself as my examples. Me and my fiance have been together it seems like forever and we were really young when we meet and he was 3 yrs older and had allreay experinced more than me in life but i knew there was something between us with in just a few hours and sure enough that was like five years ago and he ask me to marry him in april and were setting the weddding for sep.30.06! The moral to all that is you and only you know when you have found that special person it takes others a lot longer to figure it out, but your going to hear a lot of negative feed back on this and thats just because those individuals have yet to experince the joy of the love, so good luck and let us know what your decision was!
Posted by morgan; updated 09/23/05
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I don`t think it is too soon. You just need to be careful, Especially with your daughter in this too. You don`t want her to be confused. I have a daughterwho has a daddy and then has a Evan. Because I have almost 16 when I had her. Well ofcourse when you have a child that young the father usuallyisn`t going to be with you after that. So now I have a fiancee that loves her like his own. I am teaching her to know the difference between them. Point being you just need to make the right decision for you and your daughter. Just to let you know. Me and Evan are getting married when I graduate high school. I have about 7 months left. And we have only been dating for 9 months but you will know when it is right. You just need to be careful.
Posted by Brandy; updated 09/26/05
