Who Plans The Reception?
My daughter is getting married in October. We (her parents) are paying for most of it, including the reception. The reception is semi-formal but the bride and groom want to serve banana bread. My wife insists that is to informal and since we are paying for it should be able to pick what is being served. She wants to serve cake (other things are being served but the fight is over cake or banana bread). Who is in charge of picking what is served, the parents paying for the reception or the bride and groom?
Ron Pippin
Posted by Ron; updated 08/18/02
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Mr. Pippin,
Although the party that pays the bills makes most of the decisions, please keep in mind that this is one of the happiest and most memorable days of your daughter`s life. While traditions and formality are very important in a wedding, the happiness of the bride and groom should be the first priority.
- Good Luck!
Dennika
Posted by Dennika; updated 08/19/02
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Thanks for the response. It is always nice to get another point of view from someone not directly involved.
Posted by Ron; updated 08/19/02
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I can`t believe she wants BANANA BREAD of all things? Is this the kind granny makes in her kitchen or is it more of an elegant
Kind with the cream cheese frosting?
Could they perhaps compromise & have the banana bread in the shape of a wedding cake? This way, it would look like a
Wedding cake, yet, still be the banana bread. There may be some who are allergic to bananas or that do not like it.
If it is made right, it is soooooooooo good. But, I have to tend to agree-wedding cake would be better.
Posted by JeremysGirl; updated 08/20/02
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Hi even though you are paying for the reception it`s still her wedding I think if she wants to serve banana bread leave her it`s her day not yours that`s the least you can do.
Posted by stephanie; updated 09/19/02
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May I suggest that you find a bakery that makes banana nut cake with cream cheese frosting, it is absolutely delicious. IThis cake has a much lighter texture than banana bread and tastes even better as it is lighter than the bread version. And perhaps you can compromise with her on this once you find a baker that makes this. Ask the bakery if they will do a different flavor cake and filling for each layer of the wedding cake? I think this would eliminate an argument of who wants what, she could have her banana nut cake and you could have the flavor you want...if any other questions e-mail me.
Good luck!
Posted by Silvia; updated 09/28/02
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Sorry,
Another alternative for your dilemma is have mini loafs of banana bread wrapped nicely with ribbon and give them as favors.
Posted by Silvia; updated 09/28/02
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Wow....what a dilemma. Please be aware that banana bread would only appeal to 50% of the guest if your lucky. Some folks can`t have bananas when taking certain medications (my mother being one of them). Even though it is the brides and grooms special day, most likely they won`t even get a chance to eat it. Not to mention it would not be attractive.
I really liked the idea of giving banana bread as favors. Here in the south we would settle this by having a traditional wedding cake and banana bread (on a separate table) for the groom`s cake.
Michelle
Posted by Michelle; updated 11/04/02
