Wishing Well

Ladies,

When we registerd for our wedding, we learned that you should have 3 items per guest for them to choose from, that would equal us needing close to 1,000 ideas for people to choose from. Did I mention we have a fully furnished house, and that we don`t have that many home furnishing needs. So in my opinion telling guests a wishing well will be present gives them the option of shopping for a gift , making a wedding wish, and/or giving a monetary gift.

Switching gears, having attended several weddings my preference is to provide the Bride and Groom with what they need most, whether it`s home furnishings or money, it is their day and the gift should be something they want, will use and will appreciate receiving. If not why bother?

As for the etiquette of it all, how would you feel if you did not follow the couple`s wishes and found your gift unused and/or returned????? We tend to buy what we like which may or may not reflect the tastes of the couple. In fact when we registered we were told that almost 1/2 of the gifts are returned because even with a registry guest still buy what they want to buy.

Brides make it easy for them, tell your guest what you really want. Putting it in writing is no different than having your family and friends spread the word you prefer money (which most recommend). Either way you assume you are receiving a gift, you are just asking those close to you to do the solicitation for you.

Why is that better?