How To Include A Deceased Parent

Hey, well this is what you could do....buy a hard board made out of hard paper. Decorate it with white flowers and write in a cursive writing "For my deseased mother/father, don`t forget we love you and you are always in our hearts...ect You can think of something and put it in the table were your signing book is and make people sing them and put nice things is them and you can also put a nice poem and a picture of her/him in the middle.

A florist told me that sometimes they have made a corsage for a mother and someone carries it down the isle and places it on am empty chair. If they have passed on a few years ago, I like the idea of the poem and picture board.

What wonderful suggestions for this sad topic.
I lost my wonderful dad last November and it hurts a lot that he won`t be able to be with me in person at my wedding in March 2003.
The corsage for my mum is a lovely idea too.
I was going to make a small speech at my reception, something like ` Looking at my lovely family who are here with me today, in each of you, I see my father looking back. He`ll always be with me.`

I found this website has some tips about the subjects
Http://www.blissweddings.com/articles/art049.asp

And this site has a nice poem
Http://www.weddingromance.com/poems/get.php?action=getarticle&articleid=233

Here is a wonderful idea that I am using at my wedding. I found a website that engraves candles "In Memory of ____ who is present in our hearts" and you fill in the blank. So I had a candle engraved for my dad that I am placing on a stand with a flower arrangement at the front of the church. When my mom is seated, I am having her go up and light the candle.

Hi. My mom passed away almost 3 yrs ago and I am having a song that she likes played in her memory and I will dance with my brother to the song.

I recently helped plan a wedding where a table was placed by the guest book. It was adorned with a lace cloth, a 5x8 photo of the grooms mother in a antiqued gold frame on a small pedistal, a lit pilar candle and a rose - behind that was a board covered in satin cloth(same as the Brides maid dresses)that held about a dozen photos of mom and the groom as he grew up and on the board the words "I love you mom" were at the top. Thats class

My father passed away in 98 and I was married last year. My older brother walked me down the isle but when it was time to give me away he read a tribute to my father. Because my father gave so much love in raising me I wanted to honor him and missed him giving me away so this was the closest thing we could think of to having him do it in person.

Hi,
My mother died before my wedding so I had my grandmother walk down the isle and place a white rose in the wedding arbor in memory of her. You might also want to include a small tribute to your parent in your wedding program or place a framed picture of him/her on a seat where they would have sat.
I am sorry for your loss and hope that this helps.
Tienne Kollars-Churan
Webmaster
Www.shoestringweddings.com

Knowing I would not be able to get through a speech, etc. In memory of my parents (who are both deceased), I had their ashes put into two lockets, and i sewed them into my dess underneath the top layer. That way they were both with me throughout the entire evening.

My dad died last November. I am having 25 people at an ourdoor wedding on the Grand Canyon. Becuase my wedding will be small, each guest will have flowers and I`ll collect the flowers as I go down the aisle. When i get to my mother, she`ll tie a bow around the flowers. My grandmother who can not be there, gave me her wedding band which will be tied on one end of the ribbon, and as my brother gives me away, he`ll attach my dad`s favorite tie tack on the other end of the ribbon.

I am a professional disc jockey and obviously see alot of weddings. One of the most touching things I have ever seen was at a wedding last year. While the guests were being served dinner, the couple`s photographer set up a projector and screen and had compiled a slide show (to songs like time of your life/memories etc.).
First he compiled baby pictures of the Bride with relatives(living and departed) etc. And funny pictures growing up. Then he did the same for the Grooms side of the family, and it ended with the two of them as they dated etc.
Every time a cute or comical photo of a lost relative came up the joy it brought to the reception was incredible (even for me and I didn`t even know any of them!!!) It was the most unbeleivable way I could imagine to have brought all those loved ones to the reception!!!!

My father passed away three years ago. Thank god he made was able to attend my wedding in person, but now that he is gone he still attends our important family events. Per his request he was put in an urn until my mother dies, then he wants to be sprinkled on a mountianside. Until that day we are bringing the urn to all our important events; we even brought him on vacation last summer. It is a great way to keep his memory alive.

Some have commented that this is a little morbid, I think exactly the opposite that we are showing our love for a man that had a huge impact on our live. Whatever you decide to do, best of luck to you.

You could have a candle on the outside of the pew where he/she would have been sitting. When the parents are walking in your mother/father could light the candle before they sit down.

I was remarried last year. Both of my parents are dead. My sons escorted me in and gave me away. Each carried a single long stemmed white rose. The program explained that they carried them in memory of my parents/ their grandparents. It was very touching. After the wedding my husband and I took the roses and laid them on my parent grave before heading off to our honeymoon....

My mother passed away last March `02, and I will be getting married this April.

In memory of my mother I am placing a candle with a poem to my mother engraved on it. During the ceremony, at the moment my mother would have been seated, I will have my older sister and brother walk down the aisle and light the candle in memory of my mother. When my father and my mother would have lit my candle in the Unity Candle, my father and sister will take the flame from my mother`s candle and together light my candle.

I too want to remember my mother on that very special day, and although she will not be with me,physically, I know she is watching down on me.

I know some of these messages are old but I am in the same situation with my fiance`s mother being deceased. I found a poem on the internet that I absolutely love and think is appropriate in our situation. We are doing the picture and candle in our wedding and including the following poem in our programs to remember her by:
If Roses grow in Heaven,
Lord please pick a bunch for me,
Place them in my Mother`s arms
And tell her they`re from me.
Tell her I love her and miss her,
And when she turns to smile,
Place a kiss upon her cheek
And hold her for awhile.
Because remembering her is easy,
I do it every day,
But there`s an ache within my heart
Because I am missing her today. .

Author unknown

I hope this helps someone out.

Jennifer

I am going to put a picture of my mother at her wedding on the piano at the reception. There will also be a picture of the two of us. Beside the picture I am placing a basket with packages of daisey seeds (seeds of love). Daisies were her favorite flower. On the packet will be a poem and her name

Lost my wife two months ago and have the same problem. Wish to recognize wife at an affair for my son

This is old discussion, however; I just had to say the suggestions were wonderful. I am getting married in June 2004, my mom and his dad have passed, they both waited on this day for a long time ( we have been dating 6 yrs.), his father passed away 1 1/2 years and my mom, this past July. In January, Jennifer shared a beautiful poem that made me cry when I read it and will be including it in my ceremony, my dad is marrying us and my 2 children from a previous marriage will be walking me down the aisle and my brother will be a groomsmen, so I believe someone should be able to read it out loud; it is too beautiful not to share out loud. Thanks.I

Laura,
I am getting married in June 04 too. Both of our parents have passed. We are having a candle that we will light after the unity candle in their momory. We also are having a picture of each set of parents in a hinged frame (it happens to be both of their wedding pictures) and we are going to put the candle in front of that.
I have placed a poem in the program and I may have the minister read it I am not sure yet.
Good luck,
Sandie