Boyfirend/Fiance Trouble
I have a question for you all My boyfriend and I were together for three years lived together and planned to be married. Then two months before our wedding we broke up and were apart for 9 months. When my brother gor married last April my ex showed up and we`ve been back together every since everything is great. We DONT live together now and were not going to get married for atleast two years(his idea he wants to make sure that its going to work which i agree with) but he wants to move in together and has since the first month of us being back together. I dont feel that you should live together until you are atleast planning to get married. I kind of think that the reason he wants to move in with me is because i make more money and my house is nicer. I think that he just wants to share my bank account since he`s gotton himself in alot of debt since we`ve been apart. What do you all think.
Posted by marcia; updated 08/05/05
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DO NOT LET HIM MESS UP YOUR CREDIT and put you in debt!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Go with your gut feeling. You may be right about him. If he really loves you he will do what you want. Trust me on that. My fiance ismoving out into a beautiful locationg right on the beach which is also kind of expensive. He wants me to move in with him too, I know he loves me alot though. But weve been engaged for 7 months and theres no sign of a wedding yet. I told him I will not move in with him until he marries me!!!!!!! As much as I want to I will not do it. I know that if he really wants to be with me he`ll do it. And thats that. Im a traditional type of girl and thats what I belive in. I will not give in. Its not like what I want is wrong you know?
Posted by nancy; updated 08/05/05
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My ex put me in MAJOR debt.
I`ll be paying off the debt for the next 2 years and 9 months... My credit is still distroyed for 7 years after i`m done paying for his "crud"
PLEASE do me and yourself a favor..... Dont fall into his trap. If he loves and respects you, he wouldn`t be after you for that, and would respect your decision to wait until your ready to be marrid again ... No matter how long it takes ....
Hope that helps!
Posted by Coryelle; updated 08/13/05
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I`m in the same boat, but deeper. I am six months away from the wedding. I`m living at home, working full time as a teacher and going to grad school. He works inconsistently for his brother and gets paid inconsistently. He just moved out of his apartment today and into his sister`s apartment because I just found out he messed his finances up bad! I am now really worried about what I`m getting myself into, but I`m also too afraid and worried about losing face to cancel the wedding. Everytime I offer him advice and help him job hunt, he gets offended and blows me off. I don`t know!
Posted by Amy; updated 02/01/06
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Amy-
Do NOT marry the guy. He cannot take care of himself, and definitely cannot provide you with a stable home. Get out before you make a HUGE mistake!
Posted by Lisa; updated 02/12/06
