Including The Price Of Your Meal As Part Of Your Gift.

Dear Wondering,

While this is the trend in some places, if you want to stick to etiquette, it is completely forbidden. The family and friends of the groom may be used to doing this at all of their weddings, and the weddings they attend, but that does not make it universally acceptable.
If you know that your family and friends will be offended by this practice, you should discuss it with the groom and his parents, and arrive at a compromise.
The choices made for the wedding reception, including the food, should reflect the overall budget of the wedding. If the budget does not allow you to have a sit-down meal for your guests(without them paying their own way), then you should opt for a smaller guest list, a heavy buffet, etc.
Hope this helps!
Valerie Linker, Wedding Consultant

Thank you so much for the info. I am still shocked that this is a trend! Thanks again, Wondering