My Fiancee Left Me!!! Help (sob)

My fiancee and I dated for 5 years before I proposed to her. Two weeks ago she received the insanely beautiful custom-made ring I bought her. I love her more than life itself!

All the sudden she comes in and tells me that she is leaving me, gives me back the ring and walks out!! I never hit her or cheated on her, I always treated her like a queen. I have been just finishing my computer engineering degree so money has been tight for the last couple months, and I know that is part of the issue.

I have been bawling and throwing up all day long. I just didn`t see it coming, and I don`t understand! I`m hurting so bad, I feel like I have no chance of getting through this or getting her back. Please, someone, just give my some conforting words or advice...

Ryan
Posted by Ryan; updated 07/26/05

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I think some people are putting it a little too meanly but if its been a few months it`s time to take care of yourself and move forward. Depression is a hole thats very hard to get out of but you can do it if you try. You have to do it for you and noone else. People come and go and we don`t always know why. What we do know is that if you keep moving forward without looking back its amazing how many miles will go by...and soon it`ll be a year and then two, three..... There are better people around. If you think it was meant to be she would be there. Money or NO money. People don`t just leave over money - ther had to have been other issues. And maybe you were too nice (overkill) - there are girls who like that and girls who don`t. This gives you 2 choices - don`t be all giving all the time, reign it in or find a girl that likes that in a man. Either way its time to start moving forard, even in baby steps. Stop calling throw away any remnants, photos etc - maybe even move and wipe the slate clean. People don`t appreciates new beginnings and now you have one - a perfect time to change what you need to change and do what you want to do. Just dont let other people tear you up like this - they are not worht it and she obviously doesnt need you like you need her so your only choice is to pick up the pieces and move on....
Crying helps for just a bit - too long its only a poison that make any positive thinking useless. It`ll eat away at everything and consume you. And suicide? thats just f-in stupid - have had those in my life and trust me - you may not think of it right now but it is a very selfish act that leaves a scar on all the people around you - if anything think of that.
Posted by Shannon; updated 07/26/05

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Ryan -
I am so sorry to hear what happened to you. I was told by my mom ( and we all know mom`s give good advice) that if he could leave me, high and dry with no reguard for my feelings, and he didn`t want to stick around and see it through, then he just didn`t love me the way i needed to be loved, he didn`t love me the way i deserved to be loved and he wasn`t husband material. He just didn`t love me. It is a hard set of facts to wrap your head around, and i know it hurts more then you thought possible, but it is true. She doesn`t love you the way you need to be loved, she doesn`t love you the way you deserve to be loved and she isn`t wife material. She doesn`t love you. Actions speak louder then words. Atleast you found out now, and not after 3 kids and a puppy. I am sorry, i hope you feel better.
Posted by Nusch; updated 07/28/05