Etiquette For Addressing Invitations

I do because it`s not right to just say guest unless the person is single, which he was not but revenge is sweet, do that to her too but not to the other people!

I recently had similar invite and we are married. I read at different site it is the responsibility of the host to find out the names of the guests. If not married can be listed separately or sent separate invitations. I think the loser wanted him for her date to the party. LOL, he stayed home and partied with me.

I sell invitations of all types and I have read in numerous books that the correct thing to do is ask the unmarried people that you are inviting to your wedding if they intend to bring their significant other and if so those people should receive an invitation to the affair.

I believe if a couple is unmarried and living together, it is proper to include both names on the invitation but on separate lines. The word "guest" should not be used on the outer envelope but on the inner if one is used. However, if there is no inner envelope, the host should either send the guest a separate invitation or let the invited guest know they are welcome to bring whomever in a note etc.

For the record, Miss Manners makes it quite clear that "and guest" is never, ever correct, for this very reason. Always take the time to learn the names of the people you`re inviting!

I agree with Ms Manners but in this day and age, it could be near impossible to do this. One of my bridesmaids had three different boyfriends in as many months, so I have to agree that committed relationships (living together/ engaged)names a must, others -and guest on inner envelope acceptable.

I feel that if you are going to take teh time to invite a stranger to your wedding, you should at least take the time to find out their name.
I am currently studying to be a bridal consultant and in my book it clearly states that you should never use the word guest.
I think if the people are not in that serious of a relationship, than the "date" shouldn`t be invited anyhow. I would not want to pay 25.00 for a person my friend has had one dinner with that probably cost a lot less than the meal I am about to feed him.

Brandi,
Where are you studing? Just wondering what city $25.00 a plate is considered alot?

Get this.....I got married in November and my husbands cousin is getting married in June.The cousin and his fiance attended our wedding.
The outer envelope was addressed
Tom Smith.....inner envelope was blank.

I am currently going through Thomas Education Direct.
Akron, Ohio. I think it is around a little more than average but not a lot. Moving up closer to Cleveland would cost.
25.00 is a lot when you have 200 guest, 2 kids and only one income. Not only am I studying to be a bridal consultant but I also go to Akron U full time for criminal justice, I have 9 yrs of school left for my real major.
I just thought I could do bridal consulting part time to help pay for school. I have 5 yrs of grad school!

It is not proper to use "& Guest" or "& Family" for that matter, on the outer envelopes of formal invitations. It would have been nice of your fiance`s cousin to have tried to find out your name to have put it on the invitation since you have been living together for sometime. But, when guest lists are extremely large, it can be quite an undertaking to find out everyone`s guests names. So, do it when you can... Otherwise the invitation outer envelope should have just been addressed to your fiance, and the inner envelope could have been either "John & Jane" or "John & Guest". Hope this helps.

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Hello,

It is nice not to offend anyone and I am sorry that you were offended. They probably did not do it on purpose and to do the same to them would be mean. It is proper to put the person you are inviting and the name of the person he/she is bringing. Try to get that name and then, after you have tried your best to find out the name, you can put guest. I have done hundreds if not thousands of addressing envelopes. If there are two names I usually write one on the first line and one and the second. If the names are short they can both be put on one line, but usually it makes that line much longer than the other lines in the address. It should read....
Mr. Tom Smith
Ms. (or Mrs.) Sandra Volenta
123 Anywhere Street
Sometimers, Indiana 45320
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