Bachelor Party

My fiancee and I are getting married next July. I have been preparing myself for that dreadful night grooms to be and their friends like to call a bachelor party. I take each thought as it comes, and some days Im like "yeah so what, a bachelor party" other days it makes me sick to my stomach that I will actually be allowing my future husband to go out with his friends to see naked chicks. Things just got a little worse. Two of my fiancees best friends got engaged and will be getting married the same weekend as us in July, one on Saturday, us on Sunday and the next on Monday. Thats three bachelor parties that I am going to have to deal with in a months period. On top of that, my fiancees best man decided that he is throwing a bachelor weekend, in Myrtle Beach.

I have grown very uneasy about this. My fiancee has a history of dating strippers, which is fine. I am not hung up on that at all. However, he went to college in Myrtle Beach and both of his ex-girlfriends still live there, and are still strippers. I am very nervous that while he is away he is going to run into them, and he will be so wasted that he will end up hooking up with one of them. His friends arent very trustworthy, and one of his exgirlfriends has been on a kick to get rid of me since she found out we were engaged. What am I supposed to do?

I wouldnt have a problem if he was going to have one bachelor party, near where we live, for one night, at a strip club only. But the most recent plans I have heard have been that Friday night they are flying in and getting private strippers in the hotel, Saturday morning they are playing golf, Saturday night they are strip club hopping, Sunday another round of golf, and then flying home. Im making myself sick thinking about this. And its not him, I completely trust him. I just dont trust his friends when he has been drinking. They are infamous for getting each other to do the stupidest things.

Please help. Im tearing myself up here.
Posted by Tina; updated 07/11/05

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It sounds like you WANT to trust him but you don`t. You have every right to feel this way. You should tell him how you feel. He should understand. And I hate to say it but there is a reason his friends picked where he used to live. They are probably going to hook up with the ex girlfriends because they know they can and to meet up with girls where they won`t run into you later in life. I would stop it right now, and you have every right to set boundries for him and his party. His friends should understand and respect that.
Posted by Jenna; updated 07/12/05