Dilema
Here is the thing, my sister just told my family that she is getting married. I already kind of knew becuz she left a list of things on the table. Under maid if honor she put a girl that has been a family friend for a few years, but just recently they started hanging out. I didn`t see my name anywhere on the list. Today she tells me that she wants me as a bridesmaid. I have no problem with that, it`s just I thought I would be her maid of honor being her sister. And now it really hurts my but I dont know why. We are not the closest sisters, but we are a lot closer then most. If not me I thought it would be one of her friends that she has known a lot longer then the girl she has now as her maid of honor. If you can help me at all, please contact me.
Posted by Erica; updated 06/19/02
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Wats up! anyways, first of all, revenge is sweet and in case you still haven`t gotten married, when you get married also choose a friend as a maid of honor and your sister can just be a bridesmaid. However, if you`re already married, talk to her and tell her how it`s messed up to choose just a friend. Don`t hint her to be you but say that a cousin or a really really close friend. But remember one thing, you`re sisters and a Maid Of Honor is traditionally the sister but now a days it can also be a friend and put yourself in her place. She grew up with you and saw you almost eveyday. Maybe she just wanted her friend and don`t be mad because you spent all your life with her and her friend didn`t.
Posted by marilu; updated 06/19/02
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Don`t cause waves. Ask your sister why she didn`t choose you ... She may have a really good reason.
Posted by Kim; updated 06/21/02
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Her wedding day is just that--- HER wedding day. It is understandable that your feelings are hurt, but you have to let her have her day exactly how she wants it.
Posted by Lee; updated 06/24/02
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Thanks all for your help. I was really hurt when I wrote that, now that I have had time to think about it I am fine with it. It is her day and she can do what she wants. Thanks again for your help.
Posted by Erica; updated 06/25/02
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Just be thankful she included you on the list. As others have stated it is her day. No need for revenge I think you should talk to your sister about your feelings
Posted by lyn/nc; updated 06/25/02
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Just because you are her sister does not give you automatic access to anything in her wedding. At least she is asking you to be a bridesmaid.
Posted by Cindy; updated 06/28/02
