Boyfriend And I Have Different Preferences
My boyfriend and I plan to get married within the next couple of years, but the problem is he wants to get married at St. Patrick`s Cathedral in NY. He`s originally from New York and has been raised roman catholic. I was not raised in any religion, but I would say I am nondenominational. He also would like his kids (in the future) to be raised roman catholic. It has been his dream to get married at St. Patrick`s Cathedral, and the waiting list to get married there is about 3 years. I have mixed feelings about this. I don`t even know much about the roman catholic religion. What should I do? Any suggestions?
Posted by Melissa; updated 06/13/02
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Kim,
If I may ask, where are you getting married? I know you and your fiance are not any religion and I`m curious as to where you and your fiance are getting married. Thanks for your reply!
Posted by Melissa; updated 06/13/02
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Here is where the compromise begins as you journey through life together. The wedding. The question is... Who is it more important to. If it is THAT important for your fiance to fulfil his dream of getting married at St. Patrick`s Cathedral, then go and talk to a priest there to see what it takes to do that. You will not have to convert to get married in a Catholic church. I am Catholic and my husband is not and we were married in a Catholic church in NY. You will have to go to pre-cana, which I highly recommend anyway. You will also have to tell the church that you plan on raising your children Catholic. Anyway, what you have to decide is who it is more important to.. You to get married sooner or him to get married at St. Pat`s. It is a beautiful Catholic church. Good luck to you!
Posted by Lisa; updated 07/16/02
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Personally I think your worrying about to many things to soon. If you don`t even plan on getting married for a couple of years then why obsess about it now. Your not engaged and I hate to tell you this, but you might not even be together a year from now. Dont stress, just enjoy the time you have together now. Put your name down for the church he wants and then tell him "when were engaged, and making are wedding plans, we`ll discuss it further." Right now you two need to focus on making your relationship work. You have all the time in the world. If later you agree on another place you can always remove your name from the waiting list. Be young, have fun and dont worry about wedding plans until your actually engaged.
Posted by Christine; updated 08/20/02
