Promise Ring
I want to get my girlfriend a promise ring but I don`t know if I should, we have been dating for almost six months. One day, one of her friends asked me if we were serious and were going to get married? So I talk to my girlfriend about this. She said she would marry me if I asked, but she said since I have to leave for 2 years she would want a promise ring, and that we would talk about marriage when I get back. Is a promise ring the rigt solution? And as typical marriage should I ask the father or just give it to her and let her explaine it to her parents. Please someone help me
Posted by Jonesy; updated 05/22/05
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I really love the idea of a ring to promise that engagement is pending. It would be a lovely reminder for her while you are away. That`s really romantic.
Since you haven`t been dating very long I would really suggest that if you haven`t mentioned anything to her parents about your intentions that you do so. You don`t have to ask for her hand in marriage yet, but I would tell her parents that you care for her and that you can picture yourself spending the rest of your life with her.
After you give her the ring she or the two of you could explain it to her parents. You don`t want your relationship with potential future in-laws to start off in secrecy. They may have a hard time trusting you if you just give her a ring and go away for two years leaving her to explain everything.
Two years is plenty of time for them to adjust to the idea of their daughter being betrothed. In that two year time you also have the opportunity to save for a nice engagement ring and look for pre marriage counsel.
Good Luck
Posted by Ellen; updated 05/23/05
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Why are you leaving for two years?
Posted by Cindy; updated 05/23/05
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I will be out of the country for a mission for church
Posted by Jonesy; updated 07/10/05
