Eloping

We`re eloping on May 24 to Vegas! My family won`t approve, but they wouldn`t if I had a big, white, fluffy wedding, and it`s SOOO much cheaper!

You can email me directly if you have more questions! I`m so excited!!!

Tracie
Tmccray@ivillage.com

My fiance and I have been planning our weding for the past year - for next May. Last weekend, I proposed we just go away and get married - maybe the Bahamas, Jamaica? We thought everyone would have a fit, but they have loved the idea! We`ve invited those who`d like to go to join us (at their expense). It is MUCH cheaper than oour original wedding plans AND the day is back tobeing about us. From what I hear from others who`ve done similar, they have no regrets! How many people can say that? Goodluck! :)

Eloping would be less expensive, more intimate, and very alternative if you want to be creative. Having a wedding joins families (and friends) together to celebrate, brings in tradition, and makes you the center of attention. You need to decide what is the most important thing to you and your fiance before you make the choice. Money is important but having no regrets on your decision is too. Good luck!

We eloped on May 22nd and next year we are going to the beach with about 40 friends and family and renewing our vows. That way everyone important is involved and we get our pictures, cake, and a beautiful dress. Just remember the most important thing is that you two are together. I don`t regret anything. All I wanted to do was be with my husband. Write back if you want more info.

Summer

My fiance and i want to Elope at the end of next year. My future mother-in-law hates me, so i don`t want her to be at my wedding looking angry at me. We don`t want to worry about guests-it`s about us getting married. Good luck and go for it.

My fiance and i want to Elope at the end of next year. My future mother-in-law hates me, so i don`t want her to be at my wedding looking angry at me. We don`t want to worry about guests-it`s about us getting married. Good luck and go for it.

I had orignally thought that I wanted the big over expensive church wedding with 200 guests. The more time that passed by and the more stressed I got over planning made me decided that I wanted to elope. I talked it over with my fiance and he loved the idea. What really made me sure that this is what I wanted to do was when I read the book Let`s Elope. We are now planning a wedding in th smokey mountains in tennesee and it`s cositing about 1/4 of the price. I`ve talked to other couples and they all wished they would have eloped.

My fiance and I don`t have alot of family and have not kept in touch with old friends after a move across the country over a year ago so it would be me and him and hos mother and brother and my immediate family. That seemed TO intimate to us, and we either wanted a BIG wedding or just us two. We are both very excited with our decision to go to Vegas and marry the day after christmas this year. We will be moving to an Air Force base in Washington state where we will be able to meet people and make new friends now. So we planned on having a decent size ceremony(30-60 people) in a year or so and then go on our honeymoon. We will renew our vows at that time. I am glad because his mother drives me nuts...and i am glad to have him to myself(otherwise she would act as though it was HER day not ours) for the wedding.

Hi! My husband and I recently eloped. I must say it was the greatest decision for us. We have been together for 10 years, living together for 7! For us, a big wedding was just a show really. We wanted something intimate and romantic. We got married outside in a beautiful park. It`s the Fall season so the colours were just beautiful. I still had a very nice off-white dress. We needed two witnesses so we asked my brother and his girl-friend. We are very close with them. A friend did a video and pictures so we still had the opportunity to share our special day with Family and friends. It really was a wonderful. Everyone was so surprised but so happy for us. It was great! We had sent out some announcements the day of our wedding (Surprise... We`ve eloped...) I would recommend it to anyone. It didn`t cost us much and it was so romantic and special. We had a great time planning it!

Do it. We went to the Marriott in St Thomas that offers reasonable wedding packages including minister, cake, photography, etc. We only invited parents, siblings, and two close friends each, (9 guests total) who all who came at their own expense. It was intimate, not fussy, and about 1/4 the cost of a full-blown church wedding and reception. Plus a Caribbean vacation in February doesn`t suck.

My girlfriend and her fiance are eloping soon and I want to throw them a party when they return (I introduced them)

Any suggestions?

Touchy subject--tell family members what your plan is, and maybe they`ll back off! if not, go to (family) court, and have the justice-of-peace marry you, this way it`ll be legal, and cannot be "in-content."

We are having a vegas wedding. You dont have to elope. Check out Las Vegas casinos on line. They have great wedding packages. For the wedding, flying 10 people out including 2 nights stay (FRI-SUN) from BOSTON, and paying for the dinner@50.00 a head, we`re paying 5000. You can go even cheaper. Good luck.

Any ideas for people eloping in london?? How can they still make the people at hom in Australia feel a part of the day?? I suggested a "elope Cam" so we could all watch it on the internet!!! Is that possible??

Eloping sounds very romantic and surely cheaper than having a big wedding but I think you should also consider family and friends in your decision. If they are happy with the elopement go for it, but personally, I couldn`t think of much else that would hurt my family more than not allowing them to be present to witness your vows. They have seen you grow and develop into the person you are, so eloping should definately be talked about, at least with your immediate family.
Don`t get me wrong, if they don`t mind, go ahead but surely the hassle of organising and paying for a wedding is far smaller than the enjoyment of sharing your day with loved ones.
Imagine the hassle you`ll have when you arrive back and everyone is annoyed that they missed your special day.
Eloping can be really great, but I think you need to think about it seriously and not just take the easy and selfish option of forgetting everyone else. It is your day but it`s also about all the people that love you.

We are often told that eloping can be just as meaningful and satisfying as a traditional wedding, and a whole lot less expensive and less stressful. It`s not for everyone obviously, but it`s the solution that best fits my belief system.

Graham Johnston
Balmoral Farm Honeymoons
Http://www.farmvacation.ns.ca/honeymoon.html

I eloped 4 years ago, and when we announced our marriage it made EVERYONE unhappy that we did not have a wedding for them to attend. It made my MIL so mad at us that she did not talk to us for 6 months and still to this day she brings the subject up and does anything to make me sad.

I would make sure your family is ok with you two going off before you do it...at least you will know who does not like it...it may make your lives better knowing that some people will be mad(you will be prepared).

As for me, we survived 4 years this month! And we are planning to renew our vows at the 5 year anniversay in a "destination wedding"

GOOD LUCK!

We are eloping too for the same reason. I`ve decided if I can`t have it how I want to have it, then we are going elsewhere to be married. I am giving people the option to join us. Has anyone ever been married in P.E.I on the beach?

Hi, my name is crystal and im planning to get eloped in vagas when i turn 16... Is that possible or do i have to be older? oh and its a same sex marrige, so she would be 21...replay here or e-mail me at crystal_illusions@hotmail.com

P.E.I. Is Prince Edward Island - one of Canada`s ten provinces. It`s also the smallest one, located on the east coast near Nova Scotia and New Brunswick. Well-known for Anne of Green Gables, potatoes, and beaches! :)

K

After being engaged and planning my wedding for the last year, I`m seriously considering writing a book called " `It`s Your Wedding` and other myths perpetrated by the evil wedding industry." My fiancee`s parents are divorced and remarried so we have three sides of the family to please, nevermind our extended families. Getting married always sounded so simple. You get the guy, you buy the dress, pick a date and you`re there. It really ought to be so simple. Who decided that weddings have to be such elaborate affairs? The average cost for a wedding (if you believe those monstrous wedding mags) is $19,000!! That`s a new car! My parents don`t have that kind of money, or anything close to it for that matter, so I planned on having a simple ceremony and a BBQ or something equally cost effective for a reception. His family was horrified by that idea, so we decided we`d cut the guest list down to only relatives and have a slightly more upscale reception. Equally horrified at the idea that their friends (the people who are supposed to be impressed by all this) would not be able to attend, that idea was killed as well. Last week, after going through literally 25 different variations of our plans to try and appease everyone, we gave up and said, ok, we`re going to elope. We offered to allow immediate family to attend (parents, siblings and grandparents) but that was vetoed as well. We`ve given up and are either going to do a true style elopement or just stay engaged for the rest of our lives. It`s really sad that your own family could make a wedding seem like something to be survived rather than enjoyed...

Hey, Jess Marriage is suppose to be fun and memoriable. Who cares about your relative.
My husband and I eloped and true I am sad that I didn`t get the dress and church. But my darling
Husband promised me a real show in a few years (a bit less then four years.) My FIL was a bit hurt that
My baby didn`t tell him until after the fact, but who cares. My parents didn`t care for me marrying a divorced
Father of one white man. But I am happy. My man treats me like a queen. This marriage is about your partner and you,
Not about your relatives. They already had theirs, unless they want to pay for all your wedding stuff, then they have no say in it.
Good luck.

Hey Jess - I think that you have already done everything you can to show all three sides of your family that you were willing to compromise. Since nothing you could afford or suggest was deemed suitable by them, you should give yourself permission to do your own thing. Elope! You made the offer for immediate family to be present and they declined - they made their choice and if they miss your big day that`ll be their problem. You could always get a videographer, or at least a photographer to capture your special day to share with them later. They cannot say that you didn`t try to be flexible. It`s your day and what matters is that you found the person you want to build a marriage with. I think too many people get caught up in the wedding planning and impressing friends and forget why the event is taking place.

My fiance and I are eloping in six weeks. All of our friends and family know it`s coming, although they don`t know where or when it will happen. We are going to send postcards to let everyone know and we will have a champagne brunch reception in a few months so that people can celebrate with us. Most everyone we have talked to about this like the idea and a lot wish they had done it this way themselves. You need to do what makes you happy. Good luck!

My Honey and I will be married in Big Bear California in August. Check out the web site for "The Hitching Post" it is a cute little chapel that seats about 20. The cost is under $300.00 and included is a one night stay at Kathy`s Country Cabins, there is a jacuzzi in front of the fireplace. I couldn`t find a better deal anywhere in Southern California.