One Year Old At My Wedding

Hi!
First you`re not selfish. The day belongs to you and why should some fussy lil kid be allowed to spoil everything for you? Second, it`s wrong of FH to renege on the agreement, if he does that now what about during the marriage? Although you did say that only kids immediately related would be allowed to come - does this child fall in that category?
You need to communicate with FH, tell him how you feel. Hopefully, he`ll see your point. Consider though, if there will be future repercussions for not letting mama in law have her way...

NO! This baby should not be at the wedding celebration, it is at a pool with no gate, the ceremony is at night and it is dangerous! Parents claim to keep an eye on their babies but at a wedding, they turn around to talk, exchange pleasantries and other gossip and the baby will be at the bottom of the pool. This should not be a compromise if you already spoke on it. His mother should mind her own business, this is your day and I am sure that she had her day the way that she wanted and even if she didn`t, that is her own problem. This is your wedding and you may have it your way! Your fiance needs to stick by what your plans were and his mother needs to get over it! What kind of person would get angry because you are keeping their child safe?!?!?

If this is an evening wedding that baby should be in the bed! Your fiance and his family should understand and they will get over it. You need to speak to your fiance and tell him your feelings about the situation. Tell his mother that you deserve to have your wedding the way that you would like to. If your fiance is doing this now, he will allow his mother to stick her nose in your whole life! She needs to bud out and he needs to grow up and stop allowing his "mommy" to run his life.