My Maid Of Honor Is Jealous Of My Bridesmaid.

Glenda,
I`m goin through somewhat the same thing, So I have decided that the bridesmaid who has been there for me, will now be my MOH! and the MOH will be the bridesmaid.
If your MOH had alot of personall problems while being asked by you to be her MOH, she should have declined, knowing that alot of work is put upon a MOH.
And she has no right to be angry, if she is really a friend, then she will be happy that someone is helping you since she hasn`t the time.

I dont mean to sound harsh, but like I said, been there, doin that!!!!
The MOH will either get over it, or she wont..this is your specal day, and dont let anyone ruin it for you..not even your best friend!!!!

Hi Shy,

Your absolutely right but my problem is that I have truely 5 weeks if I go to her and ask" What can I do to make it better for you" I know it will not be enough. I`m more worried about her being upset and showing out than anything. I almost want to cancel the wedding because of how she has acted.

I cant believe you`d consider cancelling ur wedding! Am sorry if I sound harsh, but I dont think she`s worth the bother. When you accept a place on the train, you accept obligations as well. I understand the family issues, but by acting jealous, she has let you down as a friend.
At this point, you need to put yourself first. Ignore any attitude and focus on yourself and those who are showing you real love. Have a honest chat with her, where as nicely as possible, you ask her to drop the attitude or drop out. Its not fair on you and you really dont deserve this. I hope all goes well for you.
What ever happens PLEASE dont let her ruin this for you!

As Mrs. Bride said, don`t let this ruin the wedding for you, hard as it is.

If she has "quit" the wedding, I would take her at her word, promote your Bridesmaid to your MOH, and have one less person in the party. She has inadvertently given you the opportunity to get her out of the wedding where you don`t need to deal with her jelious tactics. That might sound harsh, but what she was doing isn`t fair to you. Plus, your bridesmaid deserves some credit! It sounds like she`s really be there for you!

I`d tell your best friend and MOH how sad and disappointed you are and tell her how much you value her as friend. Hopefully you guys can patch the friendship. But don`t offer her MOH back; just pass it to the bridesmaid, and if your former MOH decides she wants to back, explain that you offered it to Bridesmaid and don`t feel right retracting your offer to her. She`s already forsaken it and spoiled the good experience that you two could have had, so just let that be the conclusion.

Meanwhile, focus on your friend who has been doing so much work! And your fiancee, and everyone else who is your true friend right now.

Your absolutely right...and I intend to talk with her this evening. The sad thing is that my bridemaid is also aware of the maid of honors feelings and now feels terrible. I honestly will be so thankful with this day is over....mind you when her big day happened I was the rock sadly she has been the thorn

As you have only 5 weeks to get this straight, you can talk to the friend but eventually, you have a decision to make and it needs to be done soon. You can put the Bridesmaid as the MOH and either not have anyone in that spot but think of this, if they have their gowns (which is likely since it is 5 weeks away) it will be hard to replace that friend who decided that she wanted to be a jealous kid. You make the decision yourself but I would put her out and not bother and the other usher can walk down with the wedding party no matter what.