MOH Problems
Hi all,
My wedding is in July, My MOH is my one and only sister, she lives 1600 miles away...My bestfriend, is a brides maid, and lives 2 house over from me, anyways my problem is... That I want so much for my sister to be apart of this wedding, that even with her living far away, I`m always calling her to get her Ideas, and inputs on things, well needles to say, she hasnt been returning any of my calls..and doesnt seem to be into my wedding as my best friend is...My sister even said maybe i should choose someone else to be my MOH due to her living so far away... To me the distance does not matter, she is not only my sister but my best friend.
I`m really hurt by her not taken any time to contact me, it seems that she really does not want t be apart of my special day, where my best friend is doin everything in her power to help me....what should I do?????? any suggestions?????
Posted by Shy; updated 03/24/05
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You know i have a sister thats far away as well, and the bottom line here is you need someone that will physically be there for you to do the extra work that needs to be done. I know its not an easy task. My sister was my MOH for my first and see did the most horrible job. Our kids are the ones giving us away and helping with the wedding. Also, its an honor to be the MOH not a Privilege. You can find a task for your sister and still be part of the wedding crew. But you say your best friend is doing all the work, thats dedication right there.
Posted by Michelle; updated 03/24/05
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This is hard because I would never get in between a family decision but I will say this to you. This is your big day, you are going to want someone that you can count on to help you out. The Maid of Honor`s job is to help take some of the stress off of the Bride. Pray on this and talk it over with your parents. See what their suggesstion is about this and go from there. Good luck in your situation and on your wedding.
Posted by Mika; updated 03/24/05
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Mika and Michelle....
Thanks so much for your input, You see this is my second Marraige, and when i was married the 1st time, my sister wasn`t old enough to be my MOH....and she new how hurt I was by that..not that it was her fault, but now with her being of age and being married now herself, I guess I just assumed she would understand how much it means to me that she is my MOH.
But like the saying goes..You can pick your friends and not your family!!!.... I guess the best friend is in..
Thanks again.
Posted by Shy; updated 03/24/05
