Bridesmaid Dilemma

Hiya!
I was in exactly the same situation ie I was just the extra "body" cos i fitted the "look"! I`m getting married now, and its nothing personal, but she`s not on my train. This is cos I have friends who I`m closer to that I prefer to have. Also, I dont think you`re obliged to put someone on your train just because you were on theirs.

The thing about the train is that there`s almost always someone who`ll feel bad that they were left out and you really cant please everyone. You could look for something else for her to do if necessary or just explain gently that you thought she might prefer to do without the expense as she`s in the process of setting up home.

Also consder this, if you`ve been a BM say 8 times, would you be able to fit all 8 girls plus other friends on your train? In any case, since you felt you were just an extra, I`m guessing you`re not that close, so she shouldnt really mind being left out anyway...

Hi, No you are under no obligation to have her. It`s not like a favor that you have to return. You pick them because they are close to you in some way. What ever her reason were ,were just that . And now this is your wedding and you have your reasons for picking who you want. Hope this help, Sandy