No Kids At Wedding But MOH Wnts Her Baby Ther

My first question would be what were they going to do with their son the ring bearer after the wedding? If they were able to make arrangments for their son then I`m sure it wouldn`t b a problem to do the same for their newborn. It is your choice if you want to make the exception for your MOH however be prepared that if y ou don`t you could lose your MOH, Best Man, & ring bearer in the process. Just like you have a right to say no children they may not be able to make other arrangement and just chose not to participate.

She said her mom could come but they are staying at a hotel that is a mile away so she would have to leave often to feed she says??? It would make it easier for her if baby were closer. The hotel were geting married at is 500a night.....We have had several heated discussions about this and don`t understand her problem.

I don`t have kids but I`ve known women that do pump when they are breast feeding. The decision is up to you. Was your MOH pregnant when you asked her to be in the wedding? I`ve said to many people over and over and over that I was having and adult only reception so there wouldn`t be any surprises. If your MOH knew this and still agreeded then I don`t think I would make the exception. But again it`s up to you because if you stand your ground you do risk losing a possible friend as well as attendents in your wedding. Knowing me I would stand my ground because I really don`t want children at my reception.

She did not know or claims that I never made it clear? She did ask me if i would be mad if she backed out. I just don`t want this to ruin our friendship however I`m not willing to change my mond on this.

Then you have your answer and let her back out. That way she can still attend and enjoy your day as well as still being able to fulfill her motherly duties. Do you have someone you could replace her with?

Obviously, she isn`t much of a friend if you can`t make such an obvious exception....for your own moh! Amazing. Here`s what you do, you tell her that she can bring the baby as long as she brings someone with her tend to the baby during the ceremony and the reception. She can slip out and breastfeed whenever she has to. You let everyone else know that this is still a kid-free wedding and you made one exception for your moh and the bm who are in the wedding party there will be no other exceptions. I`m not trying to be funny, I really want to know. Why do so many brides object to having children at their receptions? I think some of the sweetest momemts involve kids......they are, after all family and isn`t a wedding the beginning of a family.

In my case, we have 60+ kids on both sides from aunts, uncles, friends that we cannot afford to feed nor have space for them. If I let one person bring there child then I will have a bunch of people coming up to me at my wedding asking why she got to have hers there, I do not want that!

First let me say that I do no have children nor do I plan on having children. With that said I do not think it is cute to have toddlers stepping on my gown or slidding across the floor or getting underfoot while people are dancing. These are all things I`ve seen at weddings. I plan on having a "party" for my reception. There will be an open bar and I do not think that is where you would want your children to be. You wouldn`t take them to a bar so why an open bar reception. That is my reason.

Money is another very good reason. You have to pay the same per plate for a child that you would for an adult and if you are having an open bar you have to pay the bar fee for that child also even though they obviously won`t be drinking.

I am in a similar but different situation. I have invited my married cousin and her boyfriend to my wedding in May. Yes, I said that right, I invited her boyfriend, not husband, to the wedding. We have always talked about an "Adult Reception", my aunt informed me that the cousin was bringing the boyfriends kids. I called her before the invitations went out and explaind all the reasons why we didn`t want children there. After 4 phone calls and an official invitation, to the couple only, she still RSVP`d for 4. I`m so irked. I don`t even know where to go from here. I even tried to get her a babysitter but she wouldn`t have it, there`s always some excuse. So to your delemma, I think having a sitter or nanny close by to watch the kids is great, they are not underfoot or even in the same room, yet the mom can check on them and feed them as needed. Some places even have "nusery rooms" available, after all how many people bring babies to church?

Fact is that you stated no children and that means everyone. If you accept one for any reason, more will feel hurt that they did not bring their children. There is no reason for her not to express her milk and have her mother have it at the hotel. She is just coming up with excuses to have that baby at the reception. You stated adult only and that is the way it is. She can slip into the bathroom and express her milk as her breasts fill. She does not have to run back and forth to the hotel because if she expresses enough milk (it can even be frozen) she can prepare at least 8 bottles (the amount that I used to express for my baby for a whole day) and have it ready for her mother to feed the baby. If you except that one, you have opened up a Pandora`s box because I know if I followed your request for an adult only reception, and I saw someone else bring their child (no matter the age) I would resent you for allowing one and not all!

A, you may think that having children at a wedding is a wonderful thing but not everyone thinks so. I was mortified at my cousins wedding when children were running around, snatching forks from the tables of other guests. It was terrible. The parents were too busy enjoying themselves to keep an eye on their little monsters and it was a mess. I told my mother I am not allowing children at my wedding, it is an open bar, it is at night and they should very well be in bed! No one thinks your children are cute but YOU! If you want to have children at your wedding that is one thing but DO NOT FORCE THAT ON ANYONE ELSE!!! She has every right not to want them at her wedding, it is HER day. Keep your wedding as it is. If you state no children, then you may have it that way, it is your wedding and you may have it the way that you like.

I forgot to mention her baby is only 8 weeks old and they wedding is a 6 hr drive or 1 hr flight, so I know its not that easy to bring a babysitter all that way. They hotel rooms are very expensive and two night min....So what should she do if she can;t find someone to go with her, backout and not go? That would cruch me.

Then you should allow everyone to bring their children, if you allow one, then you must allow all because it will be hurt feelings no matter what. I guess that is something that you will have to think about because people will come up to you and ask you why their babies/children were not invited and hers were. Good Luck because it seems you have no idea what to do and no matter what advice people give to you, you sway back and forth on the issue. God Bless.