Not Picked As MOH
I have a question for all of you. How do you handle the situation when you thought you were going to be someone`s Maid of Honor or co-maid of honor, and you don`t get picked?
I know it`s lame that I`m upset, but my closest friend picked another one of our friends to be MOH instead of me.
She tried to tell me it wasn`t because we weren`t close- she said this other girl and I are exactly the same closeness to her... Yet she picked the other girl. She said that since the B-party was going to be in Chicago (which is where the MOH lives- the bride lives and is getting married in L.A.) this girl could plan it, and since she didn`t have any sisters she thought it would be nice to ask her. I thought those were pretty lame excuses, and I guess it leads me to believe that we are not as close as I thought we were.
I just figured she might have co-maids of honor since she took so long to pick the maid of honor in the first place (5 months).
Am I overreacting and being stupid? Both girls are really close to me, and I would never want to mess up my friends wedding by saying anything to her (I would never want her to change her decision or anything), but should I say something about being hurt or should I just let it go and be a bit bitter? Any suggestions?
Posted by Sue; updated 03/09/05
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Be happy with her decision. It is her wedding and it probably was equally hard for her. I am sure if it were easy, she would not have taken so long to make the decision. You can still help out. It is her wedding and it really is her right to choose whomever she wants for whatever reasons she wants.
Posted by Taylor; updated 03/09/05
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It`s less crap you have to deal with. Let the other girl deal with the problems.
Posted by lisa; updated 03/09/05
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Obviously, feels a little closer to the girl she chose to be her moh and that`s perfectly ok. The three of you are friends and that`s what really matters. Hopefully you won`t let this affect your friendship. Now you can look forward to be a guest and having a great time at the wedding. No, I personally, would not help her with the wedding because that`s what the bridesmaids and the maid of honor do. Just be happy for her, buy her a great gift and have ball at the shower and at the wedding. Now you won`t have to buy an expensive dress that you will only wear once and you won`t fetch and carry stuff for her! (lol)
Posted by a; updated 03/10/05
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Thanks for all the advice! I`m actually a bridesmaid in the wedding, just not the MOH. I`m sure I`ll get over it soon and move on :)
Posted by Sue; updated 03/10/05
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I can see why you`re a little let down. But truly, it`s just a title. She must`ve had a hard time with this decision. Try to be the better person and look beyond that. At least you`re in the wedding and you can be included in her special day. Now, if she wouldn`t have chosen you at all....then we would have means for war. :)
Posted by Dawn; updated 03/10/05
