EVERYONE`S STUPID QUESTION!
My mom and I have been planning this wedding for two years now. Recently I made an appt. At my job (the church) and we`ll do it there with about 10 people. But EVERYONE keeps saying, why don`t you just have reception afterwards? Maybe I`m going to the wrong places, but isn`t that where the wedding costs come in at? If I could pay for a reception with food, drinks, utensils, servers, cake, and decorations, why not have the big ceremony, too? The ceremony isn`t per head. Is it me or does anyone else think that`s a stupid question when you change from a big wedding to a small one?!
Posted by kaykay; updated 03/03/05
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Yes, indeed, the reception eats up the money. When you think about it, all you really need to get married is the price of the license and the fee for the officiant. Everything else is optional. I don`t think folks are asking a stupid question, they probably aren`t aware of your financial constraints and that`s none of their business. Don`t take the comments seriously. You are doing your wedding you way. Just smile and say, we thought of that, but we want a very small and very intimate family wedding.
Posted by a; updated 03/04/05
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You only have 10 people, mostly local?
A "reception" doesn`t seem necessary in that case. Either folks could just come. Or, if you want something afterward, perhaps the 10 of you could go to a nice restaurant together. You could pick up a very nice looking, normal sized cake to go with dinner. Maybe an elegant cheesecake, or a frosted cake with flowers?
Just an idea. :-)
Posted by Danielle; updated 03/04/05
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Danielle,
I`m sorry I wasn`t exact (didn`t feel like writting) What I meant was I was only inviting 10 people to my wedding b/c I wanted it personal. All of my family lives here and wants to come. But I don`t want to invite them and not have a reception to "thank" them for coming. So since they can`t come they want this reception. Which I`ll be trying to feed 100 people-not including friends of my fiancee or me. Thank you both for your suggestions! I really appreciate it.
Posted by kaykay; updated 03/04/05
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So they want to come to the wedding and have a reception afterward?
Or they just want to come to the wedding, and you feel that you`d really need to have a reception if you do this?
I`m not sure you HAVE to have a reception afterward...or you could just do something real informal in the church basement...Like coffee, tea, and cake. "Tea time" is between 2-5pm and "tea" does not mean a meal.
But it sounds like you like the idea of just 10 people? That does make it really intimate anbd it eliminates evern the possibliy of having to spend more $. If that`s what you want, I`d just stick to it! :-) So long as everyone isn`;t coming, folks can`t feel personally excluded. :-)
Posted by Danielle; updated 03/04/05
