Upcoming Wedding
I have been divorced for over 6 years. My youngest daughter is getting married this June. I`ve been remarried for over 5 years, but my x is living with a man. She has put in the invitations her, her boyfriend and me and my wife request the presence at the marriage of THEIR daughter. She isn`t Their daughter, he`s not his daughter either by blood or marriage. I`m I wrong to want this changed?
Posted by Eddie; updated 03/01/05
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What is the wording? Pull out a good rule book--Emily Post--and see what the traditional wording is for this situation. If they are deviating from it, you might request traditional wording.
If both parties are paying, and if you are all `members` of your daughters family in some sense, you might be able to structure it like this...(note I am not consultiong the book now, but going from memory, so I could be wrong)
Ms. Suzie Jones and Mr. Dave Hamilton [x-wife and bf]
Together with [or "and"]
Mr. And Mrs. Joe Smith [you and current wife]
Request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter
First name, last name
To
Mr. Fiancee Man
Etc.
That way everyone is on the invite...
Of course if someone isn`t paying, then that might change things; and if someone is paying, it might be good to include them on the invite even if you otherwise wouldn`t. It also matters how your daughter feels--is this livein boyfiend connected to her in any way? Its one thing if he moved in 6 months ago and no one knows him; its another if they are a long term couple and have been together the last 4 years.
What would NOT be appropriate is for her to include herself and the b/f but to leave your name off, esp. If you are all in communication, and most esp. If you are helping with the costs. If you`re walking her down the isle, then you should be in the invitation.
I could be wrong--someone correct me if I am. But I think that is how it should work, in general.
Posted by Danielle; updated 03/02/05
