Should I Postpone?
My FH and I are both in grad school and are planning to get married Dec 05. (He finishes in Sept 05 and I in Aug 05). He doesnt have a place of his yet and we plan to get a place together. A few people have advised me that it will be better to wait a few months (so an Easter wedding rather than Christmas) cos we`ll be financially stronger then. (He`s abraod and will be migrating across continents. Also, we both have jobs waiting for us upon graduation)
He`s assured me that we wont have to live with his parents, but I`ll be so upset if we end up living with them. I dont know whether to take his word and continue planning for christmas (he never breaks his word!) or to just play safe and postpone till Easter. What does everyone think? And who has been in my shoes before and what did they do?
Posted by Shaniqua; updated 02/19/05
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I think you should both talk about what day you both will be ready to get married. Its not the day everyone else wants its the day you want. Its a special day for you and your fiance. Make it how you plan it not how other people want it to be. I`m a wedding supplier/ decorator so if you need help i will be more then happy to help you. Thanks.
Posted by Michelle; updated 02/19/05
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This is too individual a question for anyone to tell you what to do.
I`m a grad student too, also marrying another grad student. We`re to be married in May and then will live where he is in school, where I`ll write my dissertation. I feel that ours is a good decision because we are both very comfortable with the limited budget and are fairly sure we can make it stretch. We also have a reasonalbe expection of how long our programs will take and what we will be doing afterword.
If I were you, if you don`t know how things will work financially, I would wait. It is NOT a good idea to move in with his parents. You want to be cmofortable with everything, and you want to avoid the money problems that make many marriages so hard!
But if you do know what you are doing and feel Okay with it, then do!
I don`t know if that helps...but it is what makes the most sense to me.
Posted by Danielle; updated 02/21/05
